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11/19/2013
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. He lost his father 2 years ago and it impacted our relationship and took a tole on me due to his grief. He became withdrawn, felt justified to do whatever he wanted, and didn't seem to be the same godly man that I once knew. We challenged each other to do the Love Dare in the past and it dramatically changed our relationship for the better! God helped him tear down his walls, open up to me, and our love for each other and for God blossomed. We started planning our future together, planned on marriage, moved in together and slowly he became withdrawn again. He's been staying gone for days at a time without telling me where he is. I feel alone. I'm afraid that he's fallen away from God and can't see the damage he's done to our relationship. I don't want to lose him, but I admit I need someone steady in my life to love and cherish me, protect me, and guide my heart. I need him to lift me up and support me in my time of need. Yet, he's not here. I pray that by doing the Love Dare again that God will open up his heart and help him change to be a better more stable man for me. To be my strong and steady. I pray that God will bless our relationship and this time nothing will come inbetween us. I hope that God grants me patience to get through this, for true love never fails and never gives up. There's a song that's been on my heart lately and it's called "Restore" by Chris August. No matter how hard time get between the person you love, God can always intervene and make a change. I pray that this second time I challenge myself to do the Love Dare that God will renew me and him as a couple to be Godly men and women. I choose to fight for the one I love, but I cannot change his heart. Only God can. I'm going to try this dare one more time and see if things change.
Megan
11/11/2013
I am a 48 year old woman- I have been married to my husband for 25 years. We have had a very motivated work life- I am college educated and have a pretty good job and have alway's worked more than one job at a time. My husband has a High school education and has worked at the same company for 35 years. Through the years, the company has made many changes and he has elected to stay with them even though he had no chance of making more money where he was. I think he felt secure there. He and I always wanted to be debt free and worked very hard to have things at lower income level then we could have had. I took care of all the finances , groceries, bills, cleaning of the house, making all the meals and taking care of him, and always worked atleast 3 jobs, so that we could have things we wanted. This is not the problem but it does help to know this going into the next part of my problem. Because we were very buisy making a living. We did not have any children of our own. My husband didn't have a very positive relationship with his father and felt very under achieved by his dad. He did not want to have kids , because he was afraid he would treat them like he was treated or worse. We are Catholic and believe in marriage and that it is for life. Saying that. My husbands health has been very bad the past couple of years, starting with irritability , yelling and screaming at me, telling me I messed up our lives, because I couldn't do things right, ( in response to doing things right, I didn't do a very good job of getting things paid on time- therefore paid late charges, I did try to do my best , but looking back , couldn't do all the things what I had to do . His health , as I said has been very bad especially this past year, but has been on going for the past 5 + years.
He has high blood pressure, poorly controlled diabetes , and a very bad eating problem. This year he has undergone surgery for his heart, lost part of his foot due to a diabetic ulcer he couldn't get rid of and still needs a surgery to loose some weight , so he can get a kidney- that he is despirate need for. Therefore this puts me in a difficult spot. I take care of him every day, wraping his foot, wrapping his legs, watching his diet. working 2 jobs to help pay the bills, running him to his doctors appointments. He hasn't been affectionate for about 15 years, which is the ultimate concern for me right now. I feel I am living with my brother, father or other. I don't feel married, and I feel very alone, when I talk to him about affection he say's that that doesn't even interest him and that he doesn't need that crap. When I tell him I want that in my life, he say's " then divorce me "
I believe in marriage and I do still care for him , I am mixed up because of the roller coaster we have been on and need some help from ??????? please let me know what you think.
I am very confused, frustrated and lonely.
11/8/2013
My name is Alice I have known my husband since 1998, we became friends but he was in a relationship and I was in one. When ever we saw each other we talked or said hi, but nothing more than that. Back in 2007, I start it to work at a calling Center and he was working there and I was single and he asked me on a date. So we start it to date and to get to know each other better. In 2009 we got married, He has 4 children from previous relationships and I have 3 kids from previous marriages. But they got along good, no problem there. I I start it say a year in to the marriage I start it noticing my husband has problems with commitment. He lies a lot, and found out he was unfaithfull. That broke my heart, i decide it to go to counceling and give him another chance. But it seems that He cant stop lying, and the more that I try and try I trust him but a lot of the stories or things that he says it does not add up and makes me feel that I cant trust him. Every time I pick up the Love dare I go as far as dare 10 and I get stuck. No I feel that I am at witts end. I pray to God on what should I do, I do love my husband and my kids do too. But Im really stuck.
alice
10/3/2013
Hi my name is Jeff. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and married for one year. She is on her 2nd marriage with me, and had two kids in her previous marriage who lived with us. My son lives with his mom. (Whom i never married)
I haven't been a loving husband. I have been neglectful to my wife and three sons. i never spent time with them when i was asked. I made excuses to be selfish. I never listened to her. I made fun of her when she cried. I was a real jerk. I loved her the wrong way. I didn't support her or give her any confidence when she clearly needed some. I never helped out around the house at all not even mowing the yard.
On her birthday she went out with some friends and took her kids with her. She said she would call when she was done and never did. i was worried sick all night trying to get a hold of her. The next day when she came home I threatened her with a divorce and told I didn't trust her. I called her names and was very nasty tongued. She asked me if I would do more things with her and the kids and i refused out of anger. i asked her not to hang out with her friends she was with anymore and she blew up. She quite coming home and hasn't been back home in two weeks now. I was constantly being asked to go to church with her so i gave it a shot. I really liked the church. I really love her. I needed god in my life to help me understand what love is. I feel like a bad person for how I treated her. I never meant for all this. I really do love them all. I wish I could show her now and she wont barely talk to me. I think she is getting ready for a second divorce and I want to try to save this. I watched fireproof, a pastor at the church recommended it. I saw how the 40 day love dare worked on the movie. My wife doesn't come home anymore will it still work? Can anyone help me? I know she wants space now.
I dont know what to do.
jeff
9/25/2013
I met my husband 8yrs ago in church. We were instantly drawn to wach other. Over 8yrs of friendship we fell in love & a little over a year ago got married. Since we have gotten married it feels like everything has fallen apart. I love him more than anything but we both have a lot of issues. I have trust issues, I'm insecure, tend to nag at him and become angry very easily. I try so hard to make him feel loved, appreciated & wanted...all I want is to feel the same. Anymore it's like he does not want to be around me and spends hours on end away from home...coming home to sleep waking up and disappearing again... If we try and spend anytime together it ends in an argument and a lot of hateful and hurtful things being said on both ends... I am hoping that the Love Dare can save my marriage.... I truly love him and do not want a divorce....but if things don't change that's what's going to happen... I don't want a divorce and the thought tears my heart out... please pray for my husband & I. I will post updates as things improve. :)
Amber
9/25/2013
My name is Dan and I've been with my wife for almost 15 years. We've been together since we were teens and we have two young children. A few weeks ago my wife said she wanted to divorce and seemed completely disconnected from me. Almost like I had never been married to her. I know that a lot of this is my fault for not making her feel stable and secure since I've been from job to job trying to find a place in life. I was devastated when she said she was done and was very serious about it. I finally felt at my wits end and ran back to church to search out God and for some hope and encouragement. I tried getting my wife to go to marriage counseling several times since she mentioned divorce but she resisted each time citing that she had no desire to fix things. She is not a Christian and has a hurt relationship with God since her father died when she was very young. One night I drove alone to a couples class at my local church only to find out that it must have been cancelled. I didn't know what to do since I didn't want to go back home. Being home felt like being at someone else's home. After all it's hard to live with someone you've been married to for so long and feel like they don't even notice you're there. So, I decided to drive across town to visit a church I had only been to once a few years prior. I walked inside expecting to join their evening service and realized after sitting for a while that there was some type of event going on. You know what event it was? Of all the events that could have been taking place of all times? Kirk Cameron himself was here in Daytona Beach visiting the church I was led to by God, doing his "A love worth fighting for" marriage restoration event. The same night I showed up there, he was doing it. After the event I went to the booth where they were selling items and bought the Love Dare book. I am 3 days in and it is a lot harder than I thought it would be. I'm very impatient and given the fact that I've wanted to feel a loving connection in my relationship for years already, it's hard to continue doing things and being motivated without feeling that connection with your spouse. I continue to hope and pray that she sees a change in me and decides that placing importance on what is going to make Her happy is not as important as living for someone else. She pays a lot of attention to superficial things now. Looks, money etc... perhaps I never really knew the person I was married to. I pray that God turns this around
Daniel
9/22/2013
I met my wife 2 years ago. We clicked instantly and fell for each other fast. She has always been honest with me and i have had reasons to be upset with her but she has had more reasons to be upset with me. I have sought entertainment selfishly from speaking sexually with other women. Even though i never physically did anything I know i still hurt her and might as well have full blown cheated on her. Instead of focusing on the important things i just focused on surface issues. I was never willingly to admit that i had a problem. Well i am currently deployed and was inappropriately joking around with a mutual friend of ours. I tried to hide it when she was on the verge of finding out and betrayed her trust for the 4th time in our relationship. We have been married for only a year and i have caused enough pain to make her seriously consider a divorce. It has taken until now for me to realize just how serious my problems are. I didnt grow up in a bad life. I have no excuses for making bad decisions. I just did. I did it because i am selfish. Even if it is too late i want to show her that she is my soulmate, the one person i can't live without. I'm scared. I'm worried. But most of all i am dedicated to being the man she deserves. I am willing to fully take the steps to reverse the damage i have done. i know it will never fully be reversed but i hope we can move past it all. I want her to trust me. But mostly i want her to be happy. i have caused her more pain than she deserves when i should have been the one protecting and comforting her from pain. i have not been a man. i have been a small child. But it is time i become mature. Today i start the dare. i dont have the book but i will find a way. i have a lot of hoops to jump through but she is worth every challenge i come across. I'm looking for God trying to find my way back to the religious person i grew up as. i know without God i will fail. and failure is not an option. please pray for me. and pray for us.
Joseph
9/10/2013
My husband and I have both been married before. He is my second marriage. We were both saved before but had fallen out of step with God. After our marriage we rededicated our lives. We have been married for a little over 10 years.
My husband has endured a lot of physical and emotional abuse throughout his life and it has followed him. Horrors most people don't dream about. He uses drugs and alcohol to mask his pain but to him he just enjoys the high it gives.
Our marriage has never been perfect. When he was devoted to God and our marriage satan was using me to try to tear it down. When I finally wised up and tried to start praying for my husband and my family satan started after my husband and family that much harder and my husband fell from God. I gained a lot of weight and it discusted my husband although he says he never fell out of love with me he just didn't desire me sexually. Well that just caused me to be more depressed. It was then that he had an affair. When I finally confronted him about it he moved out. So I started praying and gave him to God. God does answer prayers because he brought my husband home. The first two weeks he was home was amazing. He was loving, caring, kind and he showed remorse. During this time I had slacked off praying, which was wrong. So when I picked up my power of a praying wife book and started praying harder for him again, bam the flood gates opened once more. He is using drugs and alcohol again and says that is just how he does things. I am not going to stop praying for him again. I will endure satans wrath at my husband and I trust in God to know he will protect him and our marriage.
My husband is a wonderful amazing man and I will not give up on our marriage.
Deirdre
9/2/2013
My husband and I met in college. Neither of us were saved at the time, but we were instant friends. He has always treated me with the upmost respect, upheld my honor, and respected me while also showing my unconditional and undesreved love.
I grew up in a very dysfunctional home. I was beaten by my moms boyfriends, almost murdered by my stepfather, never really heard the words "I love you" from my mom, well, not in that order at least. I was physicly and verbally abused, a very lonely little girl, I guess that little girl followed me into adulthood.
Now I my husband is a wonderful man, but of course, hr has done things to push me away, making me seek validation else where, but Im responsible for my actions.
Ive had numerous affairs, physical and emotional, with men and some random acts with women. Ive been an alcoholic, a theif, Ive been a horrible person. Yes I was once in church, but church folks pushed me away. My husband is the only one who I know loves me 150% simply for me, not because of my net worth, not because of my looks or the genital between my legs, he just loves me.
Ive tried the love darr before, got three days in and threw in the towel because its simply a sacrifice, its anhard thing to do, but now Im determined to run the race and finish strong, my husband deserves that from me, we deserve it for our marraige. I know God will gwt the glory out of our union. Im excited about this challenge, and the future my husband and I have together in the Lord.
9/1/2013
So my 4 year anniversary is coming up and I've been debating on whether to leave or stay. I've been hurt so badly so many times and I don't feel appreciated in this marriage, My husband says he loves me but you dont cheat on someone you love. He doesn't drink but I guess he was down and drank, got drunk and poured his heart out to me. I doubt he knows. Anyways, thru it all I love him and want my marriage to surpass time. so On this journey I so.
8/25/2013
I am 40 year old man married to a beautiful woman for 18 years with 3 kids. We had problems the last few years. I did not realize what they were and had been ignoring my wife because of work and being stressed with life. I was constantly angry and yelling at my wife and kids. I would talk down to my wife and not talk to her. We would not communicate or talk about things or how we were feeling. She would try to get me to talk but I would not. I was raised in a household where we did not share our feelings. I had three brothers and it was a testosterone filled house. When my wife and I would come home each night we would be in separate rooms and would not spend time together everyday. My wife started going back to school to get her degree and improve herself. I told her I was good with that but I did not show that I supported her. Other people would show her the attention she needed and I did not. One day she asked for a separation. I was devastated. We went away for the weekend and talked. We agreed to give it some more time. I told her I would change. I started the Love Dare. The Love Dare changed my whole life. It made me realize what true love is and how you show it to your spouse. It changed my whole outlook on life. We have started to talk about things and how we feel about things in our life and marriage. It made me realize what is important in life and how you show your wife that you love her. It made me happy! I am no longer angry at things and realize that loving someone means you talk to them, share your feelings and treat them with respect and caring. I have never been happier in my entire life. I am loving my wife more than ever and realize she is my true happiness and making her happy each day of her life is what love is about. The book has made me fall in love with her all over again more than ever!
Dan
8/19/2013
My name is jazmine rivera. I have been married for 7 years and I am only 26 years old. I saw this movie and cried the whole time because my husband asked me for a divorce due to him not being in love and he wants to be out free in the world. I am taking this love dare project but i am unsure how it will work because he is moving out.. I have faith in god and i hope that this will turn things around.. i love my husband with all my heart and we have had ups and downs with me nagging and complainning but who doesnt? i hope this will help me because i do not want to be another broken family home.
jazmine
7/22/2013
My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we have always had our ups and down, disagreements and setbacks. Back in 1999 I hooked up with an old high school flame after I believed my husband to be unfaithful and not really showing me the affection I needed. This affair went on for years until, I woke up one day and I was tired of the way I was living. I never has any proof that my husband ever cheated on me, sometimes I think it was a story I made up to convince me that what I was doing was justified. Shortly after my "wake up call" I invited Jesus into my life and fought the memories, phone calls and temptations from the past. I am still fighting....its 2013. What I realized is my marriage means more to me than it ever did, the fact that my husband, aware of the affair is still with me lets me know that he still loves me and wants this marriage. I hurt him badly, you can't come back from that but you can grow from it. I know God hates divorce and I refuse to allow Satan to steal what God has brought together!!! Its been three years since I ended the affair that nearly ended my happy home. Now I am working on my marriage one day at a time. I am learning how to love my husband all over again, he is beginning to build trust in me again. Its a process that takes time, but we are still together. I am communicating more to him and opening myself up to him fully. All of us have fallen short and none of us are perfect and it is my prayer that you turn around and build up what Satan meant to destroy. Declare everyday, that you are not attracted to any other man/woman other than your spouse! If God is for you than who can be against you? Be Blessed.
Sheila
7/15/2013
I dated my ex husband for 3 years before we were married Nov. 2011. During our marriage, we would argue and question why we got married. I gave him attitude constantly and ignored his needs and wants. I made him feel unappreciated. Well, in May, our divorce was finalized but as of lately, I feel so empty. He is a great man and I love him dearly. I realize my mistakes and want to get it right with him. We still talk on a daily basis and even hang out from time to time. I have asked (literally begged) him to give me another chance to make it right. He says he is content with our friendship now and that there is nothing I can do at this time but work on me. I was so torn apart hearing these words. I never imagined these words coming from him. I was told about Fireproof and the movie was awesome. It spoke to me in so many ways. It brought me to tears. I began the Love Dare despite what he said and I know that God is working on me. I have asked God to work on him as well. In just 3 days of starting the dare, I feel I have learned so much and I am determined to finish it because I feel it is already making a difference in my everyday life. I pray that God continues to work on me and strengthen the relationship I have with God and create a clean heart in me and my ex husband so that we can become one again.
Jae
7/7/2013
My wife and I have been married for only 8 months and already things are starting to fall apart. Most of our problems stem from me not being the man of God I should be and not giving her the nurturing her heart needs. I admit that I can be quite oblivious at times, but I do love her dearly, I'm just not very good at showing it I'm afraid . Hopefully, with God's grace it will change. She hasn't told me that she wants a divorce or anything, but I feel as though it may be close because she is vocally unhappy. I have read Day 1 of the Love Dare tonight and will be implementing it tomorrow. We'll see how it goes. I honestly believe with all my heart that she and I were meant to be together but I need to prioritize my life better - mainly with God at it's center. If anyone is reading this, please pray for my marriage. Thank you.
Joshua
7/7/2013
I am a 25yr old husband and father of three boys. Me and my wife met just as I was getting out of the Air Force on a misconduct. I never thought we would make it this long but I am so glad we have. We are completely opposite in almost every way. She is non-physical, I am all about it. She has issues with men and hidden lesbian tenancies, I have never even thought about dudes like that. I am happy with just having roof over our head and bills paid. She needs more stuff to make her feel better about her life. Also she has an intrusive mom who keeps telling her to drop me asap before I ruin her chances of a happy life. Now, with all that being said. I have been a lousy husband. I have yet lead in our marriage as it was easier to let her lead. I thought she preferred it that way. Turns out only because she was afraid to let an immature boy lead her. Because of this, I have moved 6 times in 6 years, lost 3 jobs, and quit several others. I am currently unemployed and we face losing apartment due to lack of money for rent. So, naturally she has had enough and has succumb to her fears. They now engulf her making her despise me and wish for immediate divorce. I told her I am sorry and I will not give up on her, but she is spewing evil at me daily, leaving me feeling like I have been kicked in the nuts several times over. I can't eat without wanting to vomit, I can barely sleep, and I still have 3 boys to make feel safe and secure. I know the problem is with both of us and not just me, however, I also know one of us needs to take that leap. Since I am more devout in my faith than her, it has to be me. I need prayer that God will change me into the man she needs me to be, in order to lead her in life and in faith. While I also need prayer for the strength to get through Love Dare without succumbing to my own fears while she retaliates against my love with evil words and actions.
Shawn
7/4/2013
My husband and I grew up in church together. He is 28 and I am 24. I always said I was gonna marry him when I grew up. and when he started writing me while in the Army, I figured God had heard me! We dated for 9 months, engaged for 6 months and I was married at 19. 4 months later we found out we were pregnant. Now, we have been married for 5 years, and have 3 little boys ages 4, 2, and 1. In January my husband had an affair. I kicked him out, and found messages on his facebook to her, saying how he hated me and wanted me dead. After a few months of seperation and me pleading with him to come back, he did. But we are both miserable. I told him I forgave him, but I dont think i have. I dont trust him and now he is telling me that he only married me because that was expected of him, that he never loved me, but didnt know what else to do with his life. He said that he is only here for the kids and because he HAS to be, because he married me. He moved out again last night. And ironically my aunt loaned me Fireproof, so I popped it in last night, and here I am. My relationship with God is rocky to dead, my marriage is falling to shreds. I messaged him and asked him to give me 40 days, and if he still doesn't want me after 40 days, he can walk away. Please pray that I can committ to this dare, that my husband will agree to return home. and That God will soften both our hearts.
elisabeth
7/2/2013
i am anxious to start this dare, i have a 6 week old daughter and a girlfriend who lloves and adores me ,i mean grant it i havent been the best boyfriend but i have realized i need to start trying and i want to show her thati do love her.i also have a 6 year old son who lives in another state where i just came from and i dont want my girlfriend to think that i love my son any more than her and my daughter, i love them all equally,i mean we have been at eachothers throats for the last couple of weeks and we r trying to get our own apartment together and get on our feet,i guess the stress is just taking its toll on the both of us. i dont really know if i believe in god but i know there has to some explination for some natural phenominoms,i just hope that if there is one that he will guide me to showing my girlfriend my love and devotion to her and our family.....well thats it for now i will update everyday of the progress made.
michael
6/30/2013
I am just starting the Love Dare after my husband of 16 years this past June 21st has disappeared for the second time within 2 nights. He will not answer his phone or anything. I know I'm not the perfect wife and I feel like I am the reason he is doing this. He is the love of my life and I WILL FIGHT for him. He doesn't believe in the Lord as his personal Savior, but I am praying that with me doing this, not only will it help our marriage, but he will see Christ through me and rethink his way of thinking. I am asking for prayers from everyone that reads this that the Lord gives me the strength I know I will need to not give up on completing this challange. For I know it will not only benefit our marriage but it will also benefit our 2 wonderful teenage sons, to see Christ through our lives (I am going to go ahead and claim that the Lord will be able to reach my husband's heart and he will come to know Him as his personal Savior) and walk in His ways. Thanking you in advance,
Jamie
6/29/2013
I am a 39yr old man whos lied and cheated on his wife, i pushed her away in trying to cope with my own insecurities and self worth. All my life never feeling I was good enough to be accepted and embraced her feelings for me, so i looked in other places for affirmation. I even lied to my wife telling her I didnt love her, telling her to leave and she fought so hard for us to to work, but it didnt sink in. I thought I have to leave her before she leaves me. Now she is gone and i am fighting like mad to earn her back, to show her I am so willing to do everything she ever asked, no more lies, no more secrets, giving her access to every part of my life so I can show she is truely my equal. I am praying that God will fill her heart again, and heal mine so we can heal together and grow together. I have hope, and my faith grows daily.
Am I the only man who feels like this? who knows that the fight should be for her and not against her.. I am so hard headed its driving me insane how I never saw this before.
God willing this story will change in matter of time, and I will come back and update it as it changes, I ask for prayer.. hard for me to ask for help but I am begging for it all now.. Faith in God is whats left for me right now.
Jeff
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