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10/16/2009
Were to start, my wife Trisha and I have been married for 15 years (our second marriage each) and we have been together for 16 years. together we have 2 children I have (3) from my prior and she has (1) from her prior marriage. I have just ordered the fireproof kit and the love dare hoping that this will fix our marriage which I do not believe to be badly broken, I do believe, (as her parents and our older childeren do), that it is just the normal stress and strains of life with kids, ex's etc. She had told me for about a year now that she has not been happy and has not felt close to me and recently told me that she loves me but is not in love with me. There are no extra marrital affairs, alcoholic or drug problems and we do not have domestic vviolanece issues. We have had past heated arguments which were mostly related to stresses and influences outside of our marriage, but nothing recent.
She also recently told me that she is not sure what is wrong with her and believes that it is mostly her being unhappy and she thinks we need to seperate. I love her with all my heart and I do not want her to leave as I have told her, she and the kids are my whole life. I believe that she is going through a medical mid-life crisis as many people do and I believe that if we can get right with God we could get right with each other and repair our marriage.
We both saw the movie when it first came out and we both loved it, so I went and bought it today for us to watch again and start (hopefully our new life putting God first, together)
I don't believe that we have survived all the past outside influences and drama for the past 16 years of our marriage, when our life together is finally our own, (no ex's) so that it could fall apart. I ordered the fireproof kit and the Love Dare kit today and I am hoping she stays in the house long enough for us to make it work.
Chris
10/15/2009
I met my fiance about a year and half ago. We have gone through some very difficult times. Questioning our commitment to each other. In learning about each other, we did things very wrong. He was very angry, impatient, harsh, mean at times and emotionally closed off. I took this as him being a mean person and with a cold heart. I left him and was determined to move on. We found that our love was very strong towards each other and made promises to each other that we vowed to honor and keep. Needless to say, we fell back into our old patterns, even after counseling. I left him again. I didn't just leave him, I packed up all my stuff and left while he was at work and didn't even tell him (did that both times). We went for a few months and didn't really talk or see each other. Somehow, God brought us together and although we both did some awful things to each other, we have a better understanding as to how we react inappropriately to each other. We are back together and know in our hearts that we want to be together. We are learning to put our pride and self-centerdness aside and focus on our partner.
The other night we watched Fireproof the movie and I was moved by how close it hit home to our situation. This is something to definately watch again and again and not forget our own part in a relationship.
10/15/2009
I told my best friend that my wife of 10 years and I were having trouble. He told me that he had recently seen Fireproof and recommended it to me. I watched it last night and I could put myself in the movie! My wife tells me that she has fallen out of love with me and feels no intimacy with me and feels that she never will again. I bought the Love Dare book last night and am currently on dare 1. We have so many issues in our marriage that I want to talk about, but she doesn't think are problems, which cause fights between us. The other day she stopped being mad and we had a real heart to heart about the fact that we may seperate and ultimately divorce. We have 2 beautiful children, 8 and 6, that I worry about constantly. I don't want separation or divorce, but it seems to be sneaking up on me, she is very stubborn. I am going to take the dare to be right with God and hope and pray that she can see me change into the man I never have been and maybe she will be willing to do the same. I pray for my family and need some prayers for me also..... Reading these stories make me reailze I am not in this alone and they do give me more hope than I had yesterday. God Bless.
Jim
Jim
10/14/2009
My husband and I have been married 7 1/2 years. Up until six weeks ago, I thought things were pretty good. Sure, we've had some rough spots, but all in all, I thought we had a strong marriage. Many of our friends wish they had the marriage we had. Six weeks ago, I found out he cheated on me. We watched FireProof the day after I found out he had been unfaithful, and held each other, crying, after it was over. I forgave him, and was working on trusting him again, even though he cannot forgive himself, and thinks God won't forgive him. I thought things were going well. Saturday, he told me he wants a divorce, and has for the last year. I love him with all my heart, and do not want to spend a single day without him, let alone the rest of my life. My sister is sending me a copy of The Love Dare. Even though he insists it is over, I'm hoping that the book will not only save our marriage, but help me find myself again, after 10 years of worrying only about his happiness. I will also be attending church on Sunday, for the first time in 20 years, and totally losing my faith in God for the last four years.
I know that it will be rough, as he says he has no desire to try to work things out, but I'm willing to do whatever it takes to honor my wedding vows.
Please pray for us.
Kara
10/14/2009
I am a firefighter I have been with my girlfriend katie for one year. I watched fireproof for the first time and after the second time it was like it was me in that movie and i also had people told me iam like Caleb and I have realized iam i act like him and talk like him and we have a daughter together and i want to make this work so iam wanting to start the love dare and make it work and i think it will
terry
10/13/2009
I am in a confused stage right now. It's been month ago that I found out my husband was cheating on me. The worst part about it is that he confused it has been going on for 7 yrs. It doesn't stop there he decided he was going to move out and go live with her. He says he loves her and he loves me too but then he also says his love for me is just from a distance. I just don't know what to think and do. I have moved out too and rented my own apt. with my three children. I still see him alomst everyday because he sees my children plus he assist in coaching their soccer teams. It is very hard to see him and not react. I have been giving him a hard time and have said some pretty mean things. I have even done things to make him angry but it's because of all the pain I feel inside. He lived a double life for seven yrs. We have been married for almost 11 yrs. He's lived a lie for more than half of our marriage! I am devestated, hurt, humiliated and feel used. I always did everything he wanted in our marriage, still that was not good enough for him. I stayed home with my 3 kids til they went to school. I had them alomst 2yrs apart, so I had my hands full. I had them really close together because that's what he wanted. I feel betrayed and stupid. I watched fireproof tonight, of course only with my children because he not here. It really touched me and I wish he could watch it. I am just confused in what I should do. Part of me wants to try the dare love book and part of me doesn't. I am just going to pray and ask God to show me. I'm scared of being rejected. I already feel rejected! Please help me pray. I want to make the right choice.
10/13/2009
We met online about 10 years ago and were married shortly after. It’s been 8 years married now and most of our marriage has been less than happy or fulfilling for us both. We have two young daughters who take up much of our attention and energy. I have hit rock bottom recently and to the point of having an affair. I completely regret what I have done and wish only for forgiveness from my husband. He thankfully has given me a second chance and I am still struggling with my temper, and determining what love truly is. Being reluctant to watch the movie my mother in law gave us, we finally broke down and watched it last night. By the end we were both in tears sobbing. The light bulb has come on, now the true work begins. I am going to begin my 40 day journey today when I pick up the book at the store and hopefully find God in the process. I know in my heart that he wants more than anger, fighting, and impatience for us as a couple and a family. I can only hope that we can come together on an even playing field and grow as a loving couple for our girls and each other. Please wish us luck.
10/13/2009
I am completely in love with the man of my dreams and he is a firefighter but it seems that his time is more focused on other things and he has told me numerous times that his main priority in his life now is the fire department. I'm in a constant state of worry and panic when his tones drop. I have loved Ryan since I first laid eyes on him. We are both very young he is 22 and I am 21, and was together for awhile but a falling out put us in the "akward friend zone". We have talked about getting back together and both agreed that it would be best to wait everything out to see if a relationship will work with his new lifestyle. I have decided to take the "Love Dare" to try to bring romance back to us and show him that no matter what I'll always be there and will always love him. I pray everynight for this to bring us together like we used to be. No, Ryan and I are not married and no, we have no children but the love is there. It just needs to be sparked again. I hope and pray that the "Love Dare" works.
Samantha
10/12/2009
My Husband and I have been together for almost 13 years and married 10 years- We have 3 little girls together - Our relationship has not been perfect to say the least- affairs- - trust- money issues - and the run of the mill difficulties with having children- no time for each other. Our family lives far away so it is difficult to get any time together-
WELL>>>
After Counseling on his part= and going to church as a family we started to get better- Things were looking up and now I feel that we are back to square 1 and struggling to survive- We as a family have stopped going to church and now I'm the one in counseling Last Valentines Day we watched Fireproof together- not knowing what the movie was about - we thought it was about a firefighter- action movie NOT about relationships
When we watched it he laughed at it the whole time - saying what bad acting it was- funny thing about it - We were married in Albany GA -Our first daughter was born in Phoebe Putney Memorial Hospital- I thought it was God directing us - trying to put us on the path toward God and a healthy realationship
Well as mushie as I am I rewatched it today after my husband said he doesn't know me anymore and how I don't trust him- I am and have been trying to trust him since the affair- It is hard - apart of me was lost- when I found out... it felt like my heart was ripped out of my chest and stompped on- Now there is a trust factor that has been hard to deal with lately-
Because...
Currently, He is in at a live in training academy 5 out of the 7 days -This is something I've supported him in doing for almost 10 years- and he has been gone since July and Lately I feel that he is just coming home because of an obligation to his children- I don't feel his heart is here with me- I've talked with him about it and we promised to work on things last weekend - THEN I did something I regret- I stole his cell phone to make sure he was not cheating again - Of course he found out... and now He says he doesn't trust me and that our relationship will not survive- because I will never let the affair go...
He came home this weekend - I've apologized over and over... cried over and over... but ... he couldn't hug me or kiss me without me asking - wouldn't even sleep in the same bed as me - wouldn't even hold my hand without me asking - He wants space and time to figure things out- I often wonder when I stopped being good enough for him - and our marriage-
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SO 40 DAY LOVE DARE - I've ordered you TODAY you should be here in about 3 bus. days- I want to save my marriage not just because of our children but because I truly love him and I told him if he wants out I will understand but I will do everything in my power to show him that I love him and Pray that with Gods help and guidence we will not only SURVIVE But we will THRIVE in our marriage and grow old and happy togehter- with GOD's love and blessings- I ask if you could say a pray for us - it's much needed
Much Love - Kelly
Kelly
10/12/2009
My husband and I have been married 10 years and been together 14. I was tipped that my husband was being unfaithful about 6 months ago. This has always been a fear of mine. He is a drinker and I don't trust him when we are not together when he does. We had a child two years ago after five years of infertility. It was a emotional rollercoaster for the both of us. When our child was born he was sick and he required my full attention which in turn led me to neglect my husband. He begin spending a lot of time away from home and we rarely spent any time together. I didn't notice because I was exhaust all the time and frankly did not have the energy to care what or who he did things with. Bad mistake!! After I was tipped I checked his cellphone and found numerous texts, emails from two girls. After hiring a detective I found nothing more, but I found out more about the identity of the girls. I say girls because that are young enough to be my husbands daughters. I confronted him with this and he denies everything or anything. I just feel it in my gut that he was unfaithful. I don't need to know detail but I am stressed that he is still seeing them. I have been praying and am reading the Love Dare book and I have seen God work in our lives already. It is humbling to find that I have been so wrong and selfish in alot of things. I don't take what he did as my fault but I definitely didn't help things. I am just continually praying that God can heal our marriage and my husbands alcohol problems. I think he is overworked and stressed and uses it as a release. I am although sad to know there are many young girls out there that would go after a man old enough to be their Dad. I am sure it is about money and gifts but have some respect for yourself ladies!!
10/11/2009
Nine months ago I reunited with the father of my 16 year old child. Ours is a true love story....or is it? I had not heard from him or seen him in 16 years. He called me in January to apologize for his past, the way he treated me and my son and for not being a part of our lives. He told me he was in touch with God and that his life was better and part of his continued journey was to reach out to me and ask for forgiveness. He was my first love and when I heard his voice and what he said; well I wanted to see it for myself. I made plans to visit with him and reintroduce him to the son he hadn't seen in 15 years. We met in his home town in early February ~ a blessing for us all. We've been seeing one another since but lately our relationship has taken a terrible turn. I found a text message he sent to this exwife saying "I desire you @##" I was heart broken. I thought I was the only one. He told me he sent the message because he was lonely and that we had been fighting too much. We live in different states and the distance has also become a factor. He told me that he loves me and that he was sorry. He said I should trust God and his message. I have been trying to repair our relationship for weeks. Trying to believe in Gods message. Tonight I watched Fireproof and I feel like God was speaking to me. This movie was a miracel message. I need to learn to be patient. Trust God and his word. Trust the love that is in front of me by being a stronger, kinder, gentler person.
Thank God for this movie. It may have saved the love I have!
10/11/2009
A Love Story
By: Eyceebee
It was December 2004 when i met this guy. A week after a Christmas holiday. He came from other country but still his heart wants to go back to the Philippines.
And This is my love story....listen..
One Sunday he attended our church service and a friend of ours introduced him to me. A way back this friend of ours wants me to meet this guy so i said “well, fine as long as he is a good guy”.he introduced him to me and at the back of my mind and my heart “ This is the guy you’re gonna marry” wow! and after a week we exchange texts, so finally without my knowing he will come back to the country where he is staying..living...in Canada so he gave me a call before he left and gave his email so we could communicate with each other..then it went on..and finally he courted over a long distance expressing his feelings...so i said yes!..a long long distance love affair..hehehe..the relationship was not a smooth sailing because it was a long distance it’s hard for us to build the solid relationship and not having a “friendship foundation” but still the relationship went on and on..but it came to a point that we called a “cool off”..as same old saying..” “if you can give me enough space”..granted!..we cut our communication...have to move on...then i fell in love with other guy..it was a short period of time together..without further elaboration of what kind of relationship we had..we broke up..i was single again!..many guys attempted to court me but still my heart knows whom to beat..it was a journey and asking the Lord “ Lord bahala kana this time ikaw na ang mag direct..napapagod na ako”.. There were times that of course i’m still lonely because there’s a longing inside of me that i want to get married kaso sino?..wala naman ako mapili that time parang walang mag match..”walang bagay”..then i was reminded of my prayer a long time ago..and it goes like this”..Lord kahit matagal basta pag binigay mo sia na yun!..and ito yung gusto ko: he’s an engineer, mapag mahal sa parents, wag masyado gwapo basta di kami alangan,christian at siyempre ma a-accept ako ng buong buo without any questions..”.. and the Lord finally granted it after 10 years of waiting and journey..The Lord taught me to wait in his perfect time and trust him in his ways..though it went a lot of testing and flaws..but i know “he makes everything beautiful in his perfect time”..he said it in his word!..the bible!
It was January 2008 when Arman called me, it was not a kilig moment because it was not my focus anymore..still we exchange emails, and he phoned me once in a while..he said that he will come home in March 2008 to celebrate family reunions at the same his birthday..well i said it’s a good idea..a month before his arrival..we had a mis-communication..so i thought i will not push through anymore..
March.17...his arrival..he didn’t give a call or text..so i said to myself..”if he doesn’t want me to see or talk” fine!..”but Lord kahit 1 day lang to settle things and once and for all maayos na yung dapat ayusin..if this will not gonna work ok lang basta at peace kami both”..and guess what after 2 days.. he phoned me and ask me if its okey to see each other?..wow! finally this is it!.so i said yes!..we talked and settled things..we started with new beginnings..forget the past let’s start with a new chapter.
Before he came back to Canada..a day before his birthday..he ask me to marry him!.Lord this is it!..he proposed to me!..yes! yes! yes! A dream come true the man i loved for many years that i prayed for!..after a year and one half of waiting..we got married..it was July 25, 2009 when we exchange our vows..joining our hearts..he went back to Canada and hopefully by next year we’ll be together for life!..
We have this verse our covenant..Ephesians 1:16 “I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers”
..and this is our love story....be blessed!
10/10/2009
My husband and I have been married for six years, and just recently his behavior changes about four months ago, he now displayed no respect for me and started staying s out all night without contacting or texting, and speak to me badly, and may be involved in a emotional affairs or more with somone on his job as well, he hide his phone, and has spoken this woman over 3,000 minutes. My Husband has never hit me, and never called me out of my name. We"ve both said and done hurtful things to one anohter. Inspite of this I want my marriage to work, although at times I felt like walking away. We have three childern. Please pray for us that God will soften his heart, and his affection will be toward his wife and childern.
SW
10/9/2009
October 10, 2009
My husband and I have been married for 14 years, we went together to see Fireproof when it first came out in the theater. It was very emotional for both of us but we still had some issues to work on. I got the love dare book and began 31 days ago approaching our marriage with a renewed effort, I wanted us to be one again instead of two souls walking different paths. This has been very rewarding for me as well as my husband. This really does work and I can't wait to see where it takes us in our marriage. I love being married to my husband again and finally I have found my best friend again with this Love dare! I am looking forward to the future and where our marriage will go and how high we both can fly together as one!
10/9/2009
I have been engaged to my fiancee for a year,and we have a almost 2 year old daughter. Been a constent struggle,been together for 3. I watched fireproof last night,and I will be watching it again with him. I want to fix things between him and I. I dont want to throw away what we have so far. Love is there,just needs to be worked on. I love him and I dont want nothing to happen to us. We are a family that does not need breaking up. Just need to work on this from the beginning of our future together and want it to last forever.
Terrilynn
10/7/2009
My husband and I have been married for almost three years and have a one year old son. Just this August I kicked him out of the house as I was under the impression that he was having an emotional affair with some whom he had worked with as he was talking/texting her more than he was me, his wife. I still want to be with him and make our marriage stronger, so I purchased Fireproof and am going to watch it with him this weekend. I just hope it makes him realize how much I care for him and love him. I have begun reading the Love Dare book and will adapt that to my lifestyle either way my marriage turns out.
10/6/2009
My wife and I have been married 29 years. We married young, worked hard and raised 3 great boys, one already married, one getting married in November, and one still living at home, completing University. To say things are bad, is wrong. There is no violence, no drinking, no unfaithful acts. There is just a loneliness and emptyness, which is growing. There is a seperation of hearts, there is a deprssion between us, and to be honest, I don't no where to turn.
I just happened to be home on my own, flicking the movie channel and saw the last part of the movie. It made me think. Its a start.
Bruce
10/5/2009
My husband and I have been married for 7 years, and it has been one trial after another. When you mix in alcohol abuse from both of us, and constant power struggles, we have both just about had it. We started counseling three weeks ago. This past week when it seemed we were not going to be able save our marriage, our conselor gave us a copy of "Fireproof" to watch together. We did last night, and the bells starting going off for both of us. It was the first night I have went to sleep with a smile on my face in many months. I think we may be on to something.
Sharon
10/4/2009
Wow! There are so many of us whom can relate to one another, and the only reason we know of each other is simply, "The Love Dare". Myboyfriend and I have only been together for 7 months, but i know in my heart he is "the one". I was in a horrific domestic violence relationship for over 6 years before getting divorced. Andy was (and is) my prince charming. We have already been thru so many 'issues & problems" , one would think we had been married for years. We are both parents, my girls live with us. We are in the process of remodeling our home. The biggest problem WAS drugs. We both choose a path of destruction with methamphedamines. We began to argue on a daily basis. He began spending time with another girl. However, for some reason, God kept us together. Then a few weeks ago, probably more like a month, a friend of ours rented "Fireproof". Talk about waking up to smell the roses! I noticed, although it wasnt discussed, the tears that ran down his face, and mine. See, he is a volunteer Firefighter and i am an auxillary firefighter. We both devote lots of time to helping others, but we seem to quit devoting time to each other. "Fireproof" and "The Love Dare" has crept up in my mind several times since the night we seen the movie. However, on September 24, after using meth again, i attempted suicide because i believed he was keeping things from me. The devil allowed me to believe that Andy didnt truely love me and that i was worthless.
After being released from the hospital, i am thrilled to say that he and I are both 12 days clean and counting. I know its a long battle, but i have regained my faith. I cant wait to get back to work so that i can purchase the love dare, because i know in my heart that God is changing circumstances and the love dare will save my relationship.
I will be praying for each of you and i hope you will pray for me as well. We are all in this together and it is our faith that will see us thru.
God Bless Everyone and have a prosperous and very blessed week!
tonya
10/4/2009
My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2 years and together for over 6 yrs. We just bought a beautiful house and started our lives together in a community away from home. I am a physical therapist and he works in retail. We definately have differences in contribution in regards to income which can cause some of our fights. Mostly because we both had different ideals of how much should be spent for personal use vs. saving. Although the biggest thing that has been difficult is feeling like he does not want to spend time with me. Hunting, xbox or computer feel like they come first. Although these things bothered me, we did not fight a lot about these issues until I discovered that he was talking to another girl from work secretly. Texting and calling her nonstop. This has been a struggle for me in trusting him again but I have been trying to put my trust in God. Shortly after I decided to do that I had a patient mention this book/movie to me in conversation without her even knowing anything about what I was going through. It was a blessing. I watched the movie and I am ready to take the Dare.
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