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7/9/2010
Hello my name is Tasha B. I am here because a co-worker told me that this website might bereally useful to me and my husband. I have been married for 2 1/2 years and when have been together for 5 yrs. Just 3 months ago i found out that my husband has been talking to his ex girlfriend for the past 7 months, and even after i told him and her that i didnt approve of it they continued to talk to each other. so now i have no trust in him and i know that he is reallllllyyyy trying to earn my trust back.. everytime i start to let my guard down i start to think about how he lied to me for her.. HOW COULD HE FORSAKE ME HIS WIFE FOR AN EX- GIRLFRIEND. So now i am on here because a friend referred me =-) I HOW IT HELPS.., i NEED HELP BECDAUSE I LOVE MY HUSBAND , OUR FAMILY, OUR MARRIAGE.. i AM JUST SCARED OF BEING HURT AGAIN!
NASTASSJA
7/7/2010
My Name is Nichole and my husband and I have been married for 18 yrs. Our divorce will be finale next month. We still live in the same house and are raising our 2 children. He has his own apartment but has never moved out. We are both very bitter towards each other but still do not argue or fight in front of the children. We still go to church together on sundays and sleep in the same bed. I know, it sounds SO strange!! Everything is so confusing and hard to understand we love each other but we are so unhappy and so far apart from each other. We still go to our sons ball games together and do some grocery shopping together I am just waiting for the day I come home and he has decided to leave. We have both caused our wronges to this marriage but he refuses to admit he has any faults and until he can agree that we are both in the wrong our marriage will always have problems. Today is my first day on this sight and I haven't started the Love Dare yet, but I am going to buy the book when I get off work today and start it. I am going to give this a try. I go to Divorce Care at my church and several counselors have recommended it. Please keep me in your prayers.
Nichole
7/7/2010
7/7/2010
Last night "Fireproof" the movie I asked my husband to rent weeks ago came in the mail. When I saw the label I really thought it was something like "Backdraft". I was shocked as to what was on the screen last night and my husband turned over and went to sleep. I watched the whole thing...
First let me say that I have been married to my soulmate for 27 years. And we have together raised 2 awesome daughters.
I just recently finished a 28 day inpatient treatment for alcoholism and addiction. I have been home almost a month and have been going to my Intensive Outpatient Treatment M-F after work for 3.5 hours. I want so much for things to work but can only concentrate on my recovery for now. However, this movie really struck me and I realized that alot of the things I didn't want to honestly face are what I tried to numb myself from.
Since I am on a "Day at a Time" program I figure I am fully capable of incorporating another "Day at a Time" philosophy into the mix. I have a Higher Power at work here and it is by NO ACCIDENT that this DVD arrived in the mail when it did...
My Best to All...
Kathy
7/7/2010
On 6/6 I wrote an update on my original story from 4/25. Since then, my father has passed away and I found out my husband is having an affair with a girl who is 14 years younger than me. I am now 7 months pregnant and due on 9/11. The affair was a blow. He told me there wasn't anybody else. Well, now there is. My husband is a deputy sheriff. I just can't imagine that he could be so low. I still pray for him everyday. A friend of mine sent me a video of Josh Wilson's "Before the morning" on You Tube. I highly recommend it. It gets me through a lot of sad times. Watch the video behind the song as well. Stay strong and keep the faith. There are answers out there. I don't know if my husband has the capacity to love me. That may be the bitter reality. I love him. So, I'll keep praying and try to be patient. I'm trying to fill my time with my son and getting ready for our baby girl. Its not easy, but, I'm making it and so can you. Better days are ahead. Its a lot easier to dwell on all of the crap going on in life, but, I challenge you to look ahead anyway and persevere. I cry a lot, but, I have started to laugh a little more and more and some days are definitely better than others. My husband does not want our child and does not contact me at all. He left us in an awful mess financially and I have no family close out here in rural MO. It will get better, but the now sucks to be blunt.
Sadness looks in the past...
Worry looks around...
Faith looks to the future. God Bless.
Cathy
7/6/2010
I am not married, but I believe this love dare is not just for couples but for Christians.... In 2002 I met someone who was sooo kind... We met at a youth meeting and just became inseparateable.... shortly after the meeting we started talking on the phone and then seeing each other... In the beginning it was sooo great... After a while i knew we both felt we needed to take our relationship to a new level, but then in time i realized that was impossible... I wanted him to take a stand and be honest with what he wanted and i understood why he wasnt, but I guess it made me feel unchoosen. He has held my hand looked my eyes and never gave up. Our relationship is more of a friendship and im soo grateful for that but yet i wonder when the day comes will there be time for us or will we be in different places in life? I pray the Love Dare will help me to grow in the Lord and if meant to be help us grow as a couple... Im taking this step for me. I want to give God my all and i know this journey will help me...
Tiffani
7/6/2010
Hi, my name is Mario and I have been married for 9 years 10 on july 29, 2010. I really Love my Wife and I dont want to lose her. Over the 9 Years that we have been married I really never put her first. BIG MISTAKE. We have 2 children 7 and 5 and I love them very much. My wife is a great mother and a wonderful person. My wife is from mexico and I'm from the US. I hate to say this but my wife has been living here with out papers. I am trying hard to fix that, but everytime we try to save money something eles comes up and we have to use the money we saved. I am the only one working its hard but by the grace of God we get by.
My wife told me that she stopped loving me and that she wants to return to mexico where her parents are. I dont want this to happend I love her and I want my children with me I want them to live with both parents. My in laws tried to tell her that what she is thinking is wrong and that they dont want us to break up but to work things out. My wife thinks I made my in-laws take my side and not support her but thats not the case. I told her I want to change I want to make her fall in love with me again I want to change for her and for me. I saw the movie as I was watching it I started to cry and felt that the story was base on my life. My wife saw me and said stop weasting my time its over. I dont feel that ways I feel like we are ment to grow old together with our grandchildren. Who ever read this can you Please pray for us my name is Mario and my wife name is Elisa I really dont want to lose her.
My wife and I dont sleep in the same room anymore I want her to but she wont I pray to God to change me to teach me how to show her how much I love her and that I ask him to plant a seed of love in her heart so that she slowly falls back in love with me
Mario
7/6/2010
August 3, 2008
That was the day I said I do, Me and my wife and her brother and his wife got married on that day. Everything was great before that. It took me only 6 month to ask her to be my wife. My dream had truely came true as I found the women of my dream. We would laugh together, play together and enjoy each other company. The love she gave me was so fanstic that I wont to tell the world. Then change, mad at the world because thing go her way. Broke not having money like she us to. The love with away or she didn't give as much. We got the love dare book and started reading together and just. I thought we really didn't need it. 1 year 11 month's I'm reading it. I don't wont to loss her but she don't listen to me I tell her what is wrong, but she don't listen. I'm on about my 16th day in the book. But hard because she just don't see it . I pray it works.
charles
7/6/2010
I saw the movie Fireproof about a year ago and bought the love dare book. My husband actually he is my exhusband, always tried to make our marriage work I was the problem. It has been 3 years that we have been seperated but he has never left my side eventhough there has been a lot of drama. This year I came to the God and I am walking the walk. I am doing the 40 days because now I want my marriage back. today is day number 15 and I was ready to give up it is not easy I already started it so i am going to finish it but I honetly am hurting., I pray to God that he givs me the strenght to go forward.
jenny
Jenny
7/3/2010
STAY STRONG IN FAITH EVERYONE. PLEASE CONTINUE TO FEED YOUR SPIRIT. I just recently watched this movie with my spouse of 13 years and he still wanted the separation anyway. Sure we've had our issues over the years but never anything major. So we just separated a few days ago and my spirit is torn. I literally feel that something was torn out of me. He is my best friend and to not have him in my life is horrible. He continues to email me daily to check on me but it's like he's going through internally. Yes, just like some of you I was so tempted to go to these crazy websites that state " How to win your spouse back!" and they tell you crazy things like, " Write him a letter and tell him that you agree with him and this will have a psychological effect on him and he will come back!". Well, "the devil is a liar", I will not come into agreement now or never with this separation but will continue to stay in faith. I say all of this to say put on your full armor of faith, Ephesians 6. I also found this awesome website to encourage you on your marriage at www.cprmarriageministry.org I'm trying to take my eyes off of my spouse and to put them on God. You all should do the same. Believe me this season of my life is difficult because I'm fighting a spirtual battle at work, school and home. In addition, before the separation when I first saw signs my marriage was in trouble, I reached out to the church and my pastor was too busy traveling to assist me. But through it all, I still have faith. I leave this before I go, Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the lord with all of your heart, lean not on your own understanding, in all of your ways acknowledge him and he will set your paths straight." Take care and God Bless. Please take a look at the website, they have scriptural references and great testimonies to encourage your marriage.
7/2/2010
I read the book and did see the movie, I was all fired up and ready to do this dare..... this is now from 17.04.10 but you know what sometimes things is just not meant to be. We were married for 12 years and 11 months but we know each other now for 21 years. We got divorsed after he had another afair (there were so many in all the years I can't count on my fingers anymore) this is not a lie. The girl fell pregnant after they had been dating and engaged for 4 years. All the other girlfriends found out with a big shock that he was married and engaged at the same time and dating all of them, one of the girlfriend logged onto his work email and found out about all of this an emailed everyone from his email that his fiance was pregnant and that he had a wive who he had been married to and not divorsed as he said to them. Well we got back together again after we were divorced for 14 months when the fiance left him after she found an photo album of his newest girlfriend.
She left with their 10 month old baby in March 2010. Well he asked me to help him and to give him support, I did, I gave him all I had because I still loved him. You know what the hardest is to love somebody so much you are willing to forgive all they had done to hurt and break you down, to forgive each heart ache and each affair just to go on and be with that person because you know they are weak and can not say no..... Well this is now July and he is again going out with other woman still seeing some of the old girlfriends and chats 24/7 with other woman on Mxit and other chat rooms, naked photo's are sended back and forth and bookings made at hotels for the night and weekends. He promised the fiance he never did cheat on her and he promised me it will stop if he could only see his child because the courts could use his actions against him, but he is not stopping what he is doing wrong ...... I tried so hard with this book and film but I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle I know it's just satan doing this but you know what ..... I'm broking in body, mind and soul.... I feel so raw and let down, will this end will this attacts ever stop ? Please pray for me I do love him but he is killing the last little flame that's left in me. I pray to God each day just allow me to make it today and He do, but each day is more challaging than the next I just can not keep up this front anymore it hurts so bad ....
7/2/2010
Well, here I am again. I bought the Love Dare journal a few months ago and went through 16 days. For some reason (I believe because things were actually better) I stopped the Dare. Things have continually gotten worse lately, we are at each others' throats all of the time. Last night I searched the entire house and could not find my journal & still do not know where it is hiding, instead I got the bible out and began to read scriptures pertaining to marriage. I love the bible and I know it is a great resource, but I have got to find my journal or buy another one. So this morning I decided that I was going to begin the dare again & luckily I remembered the first Dare...."Hold your tongue" and I think I have almost bit it in half today! But we haven't argued - IT'S A START! I hate to say, but it's awesome to see the other stories on here, because there are times when you are going through things that you feel so alone and other couples around you are doing so well. Hopefully I can continue this for the remainder of my life, I believe that it should not only pertain to your marriage but other relationships in your life (children, work, etc.). Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories and good luck, I will be praying for everyone!
Keri
7/2/2010
Hello. I am still taking the dare. It kind of difficult to do some of the dare because we live in different homes, but I will still continue. God ( Holy Spirit is giving me unique ideas to bring this to past. We have planned to spend the 4th of July together with each other and the children and the grands. I am happy about that. I am expecting God to do something Miraculos on that day; he don't have to wait until then. God has been showing me so much favor in every area of my life even providing me with a close parking spaces. He is so good even in the small things. I love him so. The joy of the Lord is my strength. To whom ever is reading this, please, don't give up God is in control. It may get rough, but we know that all things work together for the good of them that love the Lord according to his purpose, and know His Will, will be done no matter what and we have to accept that. Jeremiah 29:11 (paraphrasing) I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you, to give you a hope and a future declares the Lord. we have to stand on his words and promises He knows what's best for us. He will get the glory. Svictory.......
6/30/2010
I have been married for 6 years and it has been an up hill battle from the start. My marriage has not been great. My wife and I have tried everything to make our marriage better but we always end up right back to where we started and that's fighting. We saw the movie fireproof right when it came out. We loved the movie and my wife went out immediately and bought the love dare book. Unfortunately the book has set on the shelf this whole time till I opened it up 6 days ago. Why did I open it up 6 days ago you ask, well because my marriage has taken a turn for the worse. In March my wife told me she no longer loved me and that there was to much damage and respect lost for her to continue to love me. The last 3 months have been really hard. We started to make progress in June but then had a huge set back and now my wife has filed for divorce. Just 6 days ago she wouldn't even talk to me. She said some pretty negative things about me and I found out she had started talking to old guy friends through facebook. As you can see the writing is on the wall for total disaster! Six days ago I happened to be surfing the web and in the lower left hand corner was an advertisement on the love dare book the movie fireproof and this website. I caught it out of the corner of my eye and the rest is history. I joined the website ran home took the book off of my book shelf and am 6 days into the 40 day love dare. I even went out and bought the love dare daily devotional book. I know God's hands are all over this. I know he put that advertisement there for me to see and to reconnect. The books have been a huge eye opener. Why I didn't dive into this book when my wife bought it a few years ago is beyond me. Every day I read the words they hit me like a ton of bricks. I have been wrong in so many areas through out my marriage and the dare book is really teaching me the way to truly love my wife. I am praying it is not to late to win her love back. It might be but I know that God has a purpose for me to continue on in my 40 day journey. Day 6 and my wife has started to communicate with me again. She actually gave me a hug today and let me kiss her on the cheek. I can already see a change in her personality towards me in just 6 days of me being on my love dare challenge. What I realize most about my journey on the 40 day dare is not to give up, not to expect anything from my wife, and most of all not to do this dare for my wife to pat me on the back for my self satisfaction of doing a good job. This journey is to give my wife my unconditional love and how to love her unconditionally with out expecting anything back. I truly wish all of you the best in your journey. Never give up and never lose hope. Always remember God is in control of your future and he knows what is best for you. Stay strong, keep the faith, and never give up.
Mark
Mark
6/29/2010
My name is Jennifer and I have been married for one year, my husband and I had a short courtship and we fell in love almost instantly. So we got married Married on March 27,, 2009 it was the happiest day of my life or so i thought. almost immediately I saw a change in my husband overnight!!!! He began cheating and keeping things from me and we have been strained every since I can remember, well I didnt marry him to get a divorce please help. I love him so much he was my bestfriend now it seems like hes my enemy. We are currently seperated Im in Georgia and he is now living in New York I miss him.
Jennifer
6/28/2010
I started the dare about 10 days ago. I've made progress. At first I wasn't getting any response from him. But, yesterday i did something unexpected. I went to Crackle Barrel and purchase a gift card left it at the store and called and left a message on his voice mail, told him that he had an all expense paid breakfast, lunch or dinner. The manager (which was a man) said it was really nice that I did that. Well, he went and had lunch enjoyed himself. Aint God good. He told me it was really nice that I did that and it was unexpected. That's exactly what I wanted to hear. We went for a ride with the top down, it was really nice. I give God all the glory. Again, I say, just because it looks dead doesn't mean that it's dead. I hope this is a inspiration to someone else.
6/28/2010
Everyone is here for many different reasons but the purpose is the same.
For many are called, but few are chosen. Matthew 22:14
You are here to experience what real love is & learn to love.
He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 1John 4:8
My story like many others is full of massive pain, that even after a year there are things I can't face yet. Despite my situation I would like to share some words with you:
"I will not change my pain for where I am today, and if this is the price is well worth it"
And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
"the hardest battle is with yourself, & winning is up to you"
Jesus said unto him, If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. mark 9:23
Watching the movie Fireproof and taking The Love Dare is a great start!
I'm in day 1.
Good luck to everyone taking this dare. May God bless you through this journey!
Love,
Velia
Velia
6/26/2010
Yesterday my husband of five years informed me that he will no longer choose to believe in God and that God is the reason why he is being held down and can not find a job. I told my husband that I can and will not support this........I also told him that I can see our marriage ending over this.
I love my husband. I have cried all night and morning long. I do not know what to do. My husband is a few states away making arrangements for his fathers funeral that will be this coming Monday. He still calls and tells me he loves me and he is looking for a job back home to help support our family.
It has been extremely hard since i lost my job this past February. Thankfully i was just hired at a part time job last week. I am scared and praying hard. Today is about patience and i have decided that when my husband and I talk...............i will not fuss, cuss or scream at him......even though i may want to for his choice to abandon God. I will remain calm and listen. I need help with this and well i don't know what to do but pray now.
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nichole
6/23/2010
My husband an I have been separated for 5 yrs. Off an on we have tried to get back together. When we get back together I start to focus more on us and not God and then something happen and we are back where we started. About two years ago I had the opportunity to watch the movie at that time I didn't realize that the reason why I had the movie was to implement the practical into my marriage. Now its to the point where we are not communicating at all. As I was praying the holy spirit brought the love dare to mind and I decided to take the dare. Even though we are not talking I am still going to do the dare. I believe it will get me closer to God and chnge me as well as mend the marriage. I am on day 5 no response Svictory
6/18/2010
6/18/2010 - To Everyone -- late last nite I was channel surfing and came across the Fireproof movie (very good movie). Then came to this website which I have never been before.
As I read the stories posted, I could relate to the pain, hurt, and frustration many of you are feeling. I would like to take the opportunity to encourage you.
I am 46 and my husband is 47 yrs old. We will be married for 25 years this year. When we first got married, the first couple of years seemed great. Eventually, however, all the baggage I had been carrying around caught up with me with a vengence (i.e. being over parented, low self esteem, no self confidence, no job, no direction, you get the picture).
I crashed into a deep clinical depression, which my husband and I did not know exactly what to do about. To make matters worse, we weren't getting along. Although we both know the Lord, he continued to go to church, while I went only occasionally. Basically, I was trying to figure out how to fix myself. I didn't go anywhere, I didn't talk to anyone, basically I isolated myself.
During this time, we had two cats, Martie and Lucy, which we raised from kittens. They were great company and great hunters. We lived in a small house, literally "in the woods" and there was an endless supply of what they would hunt and bring to the back door.
For years, all we would have to do is whistle and call them, and they would come running for their dinner. One evening Martie did not show up. I didn't think too much about it at first, but it happened over and over for about two weeks. Whistle and call, but no Martie. Everytime this happened I felt a little more sad, upset, and hopeless---I was already in a deep depression and everything was catastrophic to me.
One summer night, I was alone on the enclosed front porch, with all the windows open, I remember feeling at the lowest point ever in my depression, and crying. I just starting talking out loud -- "Jesus, you know where I'm at right now, and how I feel. I don't have anyone to talk to, and I can't talk to my husband. Those cats don't mean anything to anybody, but they mean something to me. Right now they are the only friends I have in the world. If there is a way, can you help Martie find her way back here? . . ."
At the end of my sentence, I heard all this commotion in a tree near the front porch but couldn't see anything because it was dark. Whatever it was, hit the roof of the house, but I still didn't see anything. When I went out the front porch door, there was Martie standing in the front driveway. She looked at me, and I looked at her -- I was so stunned, all I could manage to say was "thank you Lord".
The point is this -- even in the smallest matters the Lord hears us -- that's how much he loves and cares for us.
Even though you may feel like it, you are not alone. Jesus is carrying you. Keep talking to Him.
L
6/17/2010
My name is Sandy, I have been married for 9 years and have a 7 year old son. Three months ago I found out my husand was cheating on me. I am devasted and am hurting so bad every single day. I never heard about Fireproof until my sister-in- law recommended it. She then serached for her copy high and low but couldnt find it. The very same day, I switched on the television at aroun 6.55 and only by God's grace Fireproof was playing - to start at 07h00. I was filled with tears and believed it was a sign from God as I was on the verge of divorce. I bought the book, The Love Dare the very next day. My I never seem to pass Dare 1. I honestly think I am filled with so much anger, pain and hurt that I can move foward. Everyday I pray and say today is the day I start afresh but somehow I fail. I feel like I am digging my own grave - I actually spoke to a lawyer today and asked him to start divorce proceedings . i just cant let go of the pain. But in my heart I hear this voice telling me to try the love dare with a sincere heart first and then take it from there. What do I have to loose? So here I go again day 1 - patience. Please pray for me!!!
Sandy
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