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9/11/2010
Hi, I have been married for over 16 years and during that time I have betrayed my wife on several occasions. I am ashamed of how I have acted and things I have done. My wife now is wanting her own space and now I am realizing how I have truly hurt her. It is almost too late but I believe she is going to give me one last chance. I have been in the Army for the last 19 years and although it is no excuse it definitely has added undue stress in our marriage. I just wish I would have read or heard of some of the material earlier in my marriage. I have read several books by Gary Chapman and now yesterday my counselor told me about the Love Dare book and the movie. I pray and ask for your pray that I can get my life straight and put so many bad habits behind me and save my marriage. I have a long road ahead of me but I am willing to work at it.
9/7/2010
Hi ,
I have been married for 16 years now and have three beautiful boys the most recent being 4 months old. I found out 3 days after my birth that my husband is having an affair with his best friends wife. But he wont admit to anything . He wants a divorce but i am not willing to just throw away so many years. I took the dare yesterday and just praying as iu go along. Please pray with me. I still love him very much .
9/4/2010
My husband and I were getting ready to pass our & year anniversary. We had not dedicated our life to the Lord yet. Friends invited us to watch Fireproof at their church. this was about the last resort to save our marriage although we both had basically already quit. Long story short, we went, watched the movie, and were very moved by the movie. So we decided to try the Love Dare. Believe me, there were so many times that we both still wanted to give up. We still hadn't dedicated our life to the Lord yet so some of the dares were next to impossible for us. well it just so happened that we finished the Love dare on our 7 year anniversary. Right after that, we both dedicated our life to the Lord and wouldn't have it any other way. Praise God!! And now we are going on 8 and a half years and God is the Lord of our life.
V
9/4/2010
Well to begin, my husband and I have married for close to two years now. This is my 2nd marriage, and his 3rd. We have 6 beautiful children between the two of us. We actually watched Fireproof when it first came out in theatres, I don't think we were even married yet!
We will be starting the Love Dare tomorrow, BUT as a family. I can't wait to see how it will strengthen our marriage, however, our problem at hand is our children. I have been at my wits end lately dealing with the constant bickering and fighting, the outbursts of anger, and selfishness. I have been praying, and brainstorming, trying to come up with an idea to help them. I was trying to think of ideas of things they could do for each other to show each other love and kindness, and God reminded me of Fireproof and the Love Dare!
So tomorrow our Love Dare journey as a family will begin! I am SO excited to see what God has in store for us!!!
Mar`ti
8/27/2010
Well, I am on day 5. What am I supposed to do if my husband tells me things that irritate him about me that are out of my control? I guess we'll see if I can accomplish this. This is going to be the hardest of the dares so far. Keep my in your prayers. I WILL BE SUCCESSFUL with this dare and the upcoming dares.
Lisa
8/26/2010
I realize that the Love Dare was created by God to change me and not change others. I realize that I being taugh by God to Love unconditionally as he love unconditionally. God give me his all without ever asking for anything in return and through this dare I am learning to be just like him. I love you God. Blessings to all the Bloggers.
8/24/2010
So yesterday I decide to give this Love Dare a go, first day! So I get this email from a buddy regarding day one, in cliff notes version, if you have nothing good to say to your wife, don't say anything at all. Do not choose the temptation, choose to hold your tongue.
So what happens? The entire day I am constantly reminding myself and for those of you who don't know Roni and I, we are around each other all day long 365 days of the year so our time spent with the possibility that one of us is going to rub the other the wrong way is increased as compared to most other couples. So here I am all day long reminding myself and it goes well and I'm off to sleep day 1 accomplished.
Now I am supposed to be doing this book without Roni's knowledge, on the down low as to improve myself and be accountable by other dudes. Well I am so proud of yesterday, what do I say this morning as if I had accomplished something out of this world? With a really proud smile, "Honey, do you realize I went the entire day yesterday without saying anything critical to you?" What was I hoping for, a big hug, some foreplay, a "why don't you go golfing today" response, I don't know, I think I blacked out at that point. Her response, "great", in a low tone as she walked away almost to say, "great, you moron, like that is something big?".
How was I to know this was to continue holding my tongue!?! Well on to day 2!
Gary
8/20/2010
Hi, I royally screwed up. I have had a wonderful relationship with my beautiful wife of 6 years. We have a new baby. I had an affair on her and am completely torn up about the stupid decision that I made. Some days I feel like I just want to die because of the pain that I have caused her for nothing. She is my joy and I love her so very much. I am on day 11 and I know that she is not ready to take the dare but that doesnt stop me from showing her my love. I want nothing more that to make this right and save our relationship that has been so wonderful. We have good days and bad days but I know that this is really hard for her. I have tried to do everything that I possibly can to make her trust me again. I just want to be able to love her and my baby and move forward. This has messed everything up and I wish everyday that I had a time machine. I just want my wonderful wife back. I want to be able to smile and laugh with her again and show her that I am a good man who made a horrible mistake. I love her so very much and want to grow old with her. Last night she told me to stop the dare and that it doesnt matter. I will not stop because I truly believe in what it stands for and I love her more than life itself.
8/16/2010
I been doing the LOVE DARE for me and my partner for some time now. Well, unfortnately we have decided to split up. It is not what we truly want oddly. But she is going through so much and has been hurting for a while. I will continue to support her and love her. We are still friends though I am totally in love with her. My heart hurts and some days I feel I cant carry on. But I do. I will continue the book its just going to be hard. I am not use to doing things for myself but for everyone else. I love her dearly and I know she does me. But life can play dirty tricks on emotions. I hate this.
traci
8/16/2010
we have seen the movie in couple, its wonderfull it has most excellent points to save and to live a good marriiage
luz adriana
8/10/2010
I have been married for four months and recently found that my husband has been unfaithful. I didn't ask for many details because I don't know if I could handle it. I want to work it out because I love him and our family. I made this covenant for better or worse and divorce is not an option. The 40 Day Love Dare, I want to experience it and live it 365 days a year.
Ginnie
8/10/2010
My wife and I have been married for 8 years, we have 2 children and one on the way. A couple days ago my wife found out that I was unfaithful on her. I was so relieved that this happened. I have been hurting so much holding this inside of me. All I ever wanted was for my wife to notice me, flirt with me, make me feel like she is the luckiest wife in the world. It seemed like the only attention I would get from her was what I didn't get done or what I need to do. I have my faults as well. What I did was selfish and wrong no matter what she has not done for me. The only thing I want is our marriage to get stonger. I have a lot of work to do. I feel like everything I say, she thinks is a lie even though it is not. I'm willing to do what ever it taked to get this to where it should be.
Chad
Chad
8/8/2010
hello...well my husband and I have only been married for 10months and we have been at points where we have wanted to give up ..wondering why we even got married in the first place...well we got married after only being together less than a year...he is also 8 years older than me and we have came across lots of issues that we didn't know about each other because we rushed things so much...I really want this marriage to work...my husband wants to quit so I am doing the love dare without him knowing ...I am only on day 3 and already realized that this isn't going to be easy...it's hard to show someone love and try to go out of your way to be sweet and show love and it just goes unnoticed..but no matter what I am going to give it 100% so wish me luck
Natasha
8/3/2010
Hi my name is Jenniffier. This is my second marriage and I have been with my husband since 3/2006 and married since 6/2007. and my marriage is like going down a steep hill 90 miles an hour! I would do anything to safe my marriage! my husband has no respect for me at all. all he does is put me down and tells me I'm nothing and will be nothing without him. He has calling me every name in the book! he told me July 17th that we need time a part to work things out and since then it's got a hole lot worst. he said we need to go to counseling and I have 2 appointments in the last week and half and he has fail to want to go. making every excuses. i don't feel he really wants this marriage to work! i have watched the movie fireproof and seen how the 40 day love dare changed there lives and want that for my marriage! so i'm going to do the 40 day Love dare and fireproof my marriage! i'll let you guys know how it go's
JENNIFFIER
7/31/2010
I'm not even married yet, but my fiance and I have been together a little over a year. The date is set for the end of September. I've never been so confused in my life. He loves me and my almost 6 year old son more than I could have ever imagined a man could love two strangers. I'm the one that's grown distant, due to the norm: stress, financial problems, being scared, not thinking I'm good enough, etc. I'm not a very "spiritual" person, never have been due to being scared into religion. I wonder how two people that are so different, can be so good for one another. I've prayed hard, asking for some sort of guidance..something..anything, to lift me in some way to somehow make MYSELF a better person. I know the person I am capable of being, and I can't wait to see and show that person to the world. I hope this Love Dare does something inside and out to make me the young woman, daughter, wife, mother, sister, friend I long so much to be.
Stephanie
7/24/2010
I have started my dare today. We have been married for 9 years but we have been dealing with finantial troubles during this time because my husband has had problems for finding a formal job. He is an architect and I am a teacher and cannot complain because I have two jobs and during this time I have brought incomes to our house so we can supply our needs. he has helped sometimes when he gets money, but I think that sometimes he has earned it but not shared with us because he has two other children and their mom sometimes I can perceive is pusshing on him, how do I notice? because he starts like depressed. I am so worried that this is not working and I am doing everything to keep going on. and most worried because my elder daughter is acting like him, she is 9 and sometimes doesn't want to play and mannipulates him to the point that we end up fighting or disgusted without saying anything. please keep me in your prayers, sometimes I wish I could runaway.
7/13/2010
pain comes to battle in the wee hours of the morning. my husband often swells up with tears and chokes back the swelling in his thoart..i have multiple sclerosis and kidney disease..along with being legally blind with thick glasses on. we have been married for 38 good years untill 1992 i was robust living everyday free from any health problems. but my story is this...he will often take my hand when the pain hits and kneels when he can (he has arthritis ) and prays to the lord for me. he often says..''i love you --i have ALWAYS LOVED YOU. i thank you JESUS for a good caregiver-husband.
I LOVE MY HUSBAND-I HAVE ALWAYS --LOVED HIM
PATRICIA
7/13/2010
Hi my name is Deshaunte'. I have been married to my wife for 3 yrs now. We have been together for about 5 yrs and have known each other for about 8 yrs. We got engaged just after i joined the Marine Corps and got married a year and a half later when i returned from Iraq. Our relationship was fine before i deployed but when i got back it went south fairly quickly. We have tried marriage counseling but i dont think either of us have really put 100% into it. It is at the point now were my wife has moved out a week ago and is thinking she wants a divorce. I have been hurt so bad before in the past with trusting people and letting myself have feelings for people then they just turn around and leave me. It was a pretty bad childhood. But i feel it has taken a toll on my marriage and i have refused to let myself love because i feel vulnerable and i dont want to get hurt again. i know i am only hurting myself when i dont let my wife in and now she is getting ready to leave me for good. I asked her if she had any feelings left for me and she says yes but doesnt want to get hurt again. How do i show her that i really want this to work because she is the most important person in the world to me. I just wish she could see that. I asked her if she wanted to do the 40 day love dare with me but she said she doesnt know if she can. I guess i am gonna start it by myself and hopefully she will join in. Please keep me in your prayers. I love her with all my heart and i will do anything to show her i love you and that she is the most important person in the world to me. Thanks for listening!
Deshaunte
Deshaunte
7/12/2010
My partner and I have only been together just since February 2010. I just came out of a horribly abusive relationship and we pormised to be just friends. But we continuly felt a connection that only God knows. So we decided to stop the resisting and try it. We both feel for each other still. Recently, her cousin in law became really sick with cancer (we knew about it) but about 2 weeks ago, my partner stoped showing any feelings towards me and when asked if we need to stay together she says she does not want to lose me. But now she is bring me down emotionally and never wants me around. She claims to be in love with me still, but says she feels empty. I feel she is took so much feelings for her family and trying to be strong with her cousin dying. That she suppressed her feelings. I dont want to lose her. I just this morning thought about watching the Love Dare movie again ( i bought it) and buying the book. I have not told her about my idea and dont know if I should. But I dont know I that is the right steps to take with someone that doesnt know why they are feeling the way they do. I just know God sent her to me and why should I not fight for her. A good song also to listen to God gave me you by Dave Barnes or God gave me you by Bryan White.
Traci
7/12/2010
My husband and I have been married for 2 years been together 3. Recently the respect from him is completely gone. I had seen "Fireproof" berofe but I watched it again tonight. I know deep in my heart I want this marriage to work because I love my husband with all my heart and soul, I would do anything for him but here lately he has been spending less time as a family man and more time hanging out with his friwnds. I understand that friends are important but I feel that family should be more important adnd it just doesnt seem that he feels the same way. I have vowed to do everything in my power to save this marriage and I know this is probably not right to say but if this marriage does end I dont want to look back and say well I didnt put forth the best effort I could and live the rest of my life knowing that. So I vow tonght that I am going to try to FIREPROOF my marriage and I will update as I go along.
Nicole
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