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2/15/2009
Today is the first day of the Love Dare for me and my boyfriend. I got both of us books and gave it to him on Valentines Day. I texted him earlier today and said today I started MY Dare. As a redheaded female, I have never been one for any form of patience and today I have been very patient. I believe that it has worked well for me today. He said he was doing one of his hobbies and I said fine. I think that it will be a great journey for me and if he does not want to do it then that is fine. I know what I am capable of and I know that there will be hard dares to come along but I think in the end I wil find out what are relationship can stand and more on who I am as a female.
Well today he tested my patience. He was supposed to call me right back and ended up calling me 3hrs later which was right before work. So I got upset and held my tongue. It was hard and I knew with my patience that it would be. But I did it. So I made it through my first dare:D
2/15/2009
Me and my husband have been together for almost 9 years and married for almost 5. We like many others have faced the rocky road. We got through most of them and we came to a point in our marriage where we knew we needed help. I started going back to church and after a couple weeks my husband followed and we hit another bump. At that time we went to our pastor for help and we went and bought the Love Dare after leaving his office. We both agreed to commit to the book and our marriage. We are at the beginning of the Love Dare challenge and just watched the movie. We both love each other and are hoping that this helps. It helped my pastor and my best friend so here we go. We are ready for the adventure to begin.
Jacquie
2/15/2009
I am on day 34. I found out 3 months ago that my husband has been having an affair with another woman for the past year. This horrible news, hit me hard and I had no idea that anything had been going on. In the beginning of December he told me that he wanted a divorce and since that day has made it crystal clear with his choices and actions that our marriage was ending.
On January 4, after finishing the book Fireproof, I decided that my marriage was too important to let turn to ash. With God's help, I have been faithfully and whole-heartedly following The Love Dare. Watching my husband leave to go to another woman's house and into another woman's arms is one of the hardest, most devastating things I have experienced. However, with prayer and daily devotions, and most of all strength from the Lord, I am almost complete with this 40 day journey.
My marriage is still in danger, but I had a wonderful, hopeful thing happen! My husband starting telling me that he loved me again, he started spending time with me, eating supper with me, taking walks with me, and being courteous to me. I must admit that it's hard not to want to "dive in" and think that this means our marriage is completely saved. But I am so hopeful that he wanted to spend time with me. We started talking, I kept reminding him that he could talk to me about anything, and in the last few weeks he's told me that he's had doubts about filing for divorce.
On Friday, February 13th, my husband came to my workplace, and told me that he has made a decision to either end his relationship with his mistress, or take a long break from her. Although he hasn't made a clear decision yet, I pray that he will make the decision to end the relationship, and he will turn to the Lord to guide his life.
Throughout this journey I have learned to have patience, and many times I have had to feverently pray for that. But I have, and just a few months ago my marriage was certainly headed towards divorce, but now I have hope. I have hope that this marriage can be saved~ Praise be to God!
To anyone who's going through this, keep steadfast in your faith and trust in the Lord. "For I know the plans I have for you", declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11). Keep your faith, patience, and trust in Him. Don't let fear rule your heart.
God has blessed me and I know that his plans are good for me, they are for you as well. Keep praying, keep loving, and don't give up!
2/15/2009
My wife and I watched Fireproof for the first time on Valentine’s Day 2009. I think it was the best Valentine’s present or date I have ever been on. Although we are not close to a divorce we have been in the past. We have grown lethargic in our relationship and seem to just exist day to day going through the motion or just not doing anything. This movie has opened my eyes and I am making a commitment to do the 40-day love dare and I pray that this will make me the husband my wife wants and needs and takes our relationship to the next level and makes it stronger than we could even imagine. We have been married 22 years and I want to make a commitment today that I will do everything in my power to make the next 22 the best ever for my wife and bring back the happiness that the Lord intended for us to have each and every day.
Doug
2/14/2009
It is February 14, 2009-Valentine's Day. I subhmitted my story the other day. It is Day (13) of my Love Dare challenge on my loving Wife, Judie. About three weeks ago, after a Pastoral counseling session, where I reinforce: "...it's hopeless. I hold out no hope that this seperation is coming to an end...",it appears to have come to an abrupt halt. After the session, my Wife Judie, kissed me good-by in the Church parking lot and we went to our seperate homes, in seperate vehicles, and we haven't spoken since. There has been no contact-other than my "creative", daily Love Dare challenges that I've done by voice-mail, or, by leaving items in her parked vehicle, at her work location. I realize today, the I must do some things that I've never done in my life. I must follow what the Bible is instructing me to do. "Always remain loyal to your wife." The Lord witnessed the vows you and your wife made to each other on your wedding day..." "...A Husband must never leave his wife..." You must accept whatever situation the Lord has put you in, and continue on as you were, when God first called you." "Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud, or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and keeps no record of wrongs...LOVE NEVER GIVES UP, NEVER LOSES FAITH, IS ALWAYS HOPEFUL, AND ENDURES THROUGH EVERY CIRCUMSTANCE." "Love never fails."
Dear Jesus,
Today, I offer You my loyalty and pledge to You my faith, trust and commitment. I submit to Your words:"The Lord hates divorce." I ask, in Your Name, help save our marriage. Mold me into the husband and man both you and she, need me to be: honorable, trustworthy and humble. I commend my relationship into Your arms, to do with as You see fit, IN YOUR TIME. I ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom, patience and endurance to bear this trial. I know You send mankind specific help, during our hours of darkest needs. This love Dare is your answer for marriage. I commit to continuing these challenges-through the distances and circumstances of to my Wife and our family-the innocent ones-whose only crimes were unconditonal love, and a family position. Only You can decide, if I can be worthy to receive her back, once more. With Tears on my face, and longing in my heart,
Loving you, Love me.
Gary Vidovich
Springdale, Pennsylvania
Gary
2/13/2009
My husband I have been married for almost 16 years. We have had our ups and downs like any couple. But recently the stakes have changed. The last few months have been some of the best and the worst of my life. The day after we finally received the word that we were going to be adopting three children, my father died of cancer.
When I was a little girl my parents separated. That event changed our lives. My mother found God while they were separated. God's love saved her, and through her, our family was saved. Thirty years later I watched my mother say goodbye to the man she loved.
I realized then that I wanted that kind of love for my marriage.
Now, there are three children that need that kind of love between their parents, and we have both commited to this. Tomorrow on Valentine's Day, my husband and I become parents. When I see him with those children, I know that God has a plan for everything. Sometimes it isn't what we imagined, but I wouldn't change it for anything in the world.
2/13/2009
I married my wonderful wife nearly four years ago but we knew each other 25 years ago. We reconnected about about 7 years ago. I have never known a love like my wife and we are not nessasarily growing apart but growing together. Our marriage does not have the passion it had when we got married and now we have two toddlers. We acknowledge between work, school full time, the children we are lacking much needed time. We still love each other and know we will be together forever because it was destined to be by God. We know our lives were shambles until he place us back in a path we would find each other. We know through God all things are possible. We know with Love Dare it will help. We are just beginning that journey and am excited to see how it may help. I love my wife through all of the Trials and would never want to walk those roads with anyone other than her. God is my life but my wife is my breath. I would go to the ends of the earth for God but will beg and plead to take her with me. God is what I breath but my wife is my oxygen.
2/12/2009
I am only at the beginning of this journey and right now I know that my fiance would never watch a movie like Fireproof. The enemy has such a strong hold on him that he feels like he doesn`t need God. To me, this movie was "Wonderful"...
It confirmed to me that I need to be patient and trust God to do what He has promised to do for me. It is encouraging to me that this works for other people. I thank God for all of the couples that have made it through the storm.
2/12/2009
my husband and i have only been together for three years and we got married this last september. i got pregnant with my son the first couple months of being together. so we really didnt get time to get to know eachother. i moved in with him 2 months before i had our son. and thats when we started having horribe fights. just fighting everyday and getting physical with eachother. its been going on for the whole time. i became severly depressed wanting to end my life everyday. our relationship was not good but we loved eachother so much we never wanted to leave. then this past june i cheated on him with another man. it was a one night thing. he found out the next day and we got decided we still wanted to be with eachother. all along i was a couple weeks pregnant. then we decided to get married in september. things were going pretty good and we new we wanted to be with eachother. our physical abuse stopped but our fighting hasnt. we recently watched fireproof and it really touched us. we are currently not living togethr to see what we should do . get a divorce or make this work. we really love eachother and want it to work . we just dont know where to start...
2/12/2009
I just watched this movie 3 weeks ago and boy did it make me cry and think. I will married 10 years this year although I am seperated from my husband at this time, I still went out yesterday and bought 2 copies of the Love Dare. I had him promise that he would read it with me for the next 40 days. It seemed that God put this movie in my hands for a reason. I love my husband very much but I am not in love with him. I know that with God all things are possible. Our problem is that my husband does not find me attractive anymore so we have intimacy issued. We have never cheated on each oher but we have grown apart. Please PRAY for us so we can find each other again and not let this marriage fall apart. I will also pray for all of those marriages that are falling apart. GOD BLESS !!!!
2/11/2009
My husband and I have just recently gotten married. February 23,2009 will be three months for us. I know at times I have felt if I am only this far into my marriage, then why in the world will it ever work.I know myself that I have cheated on my spouse in the past (before we got married) and felt like he just didn't understand me, like there was someone out there who would much more than him.I know there have been so many times we have started off with the simplest little disagreement and end up in this huge argument blown out of proportion!(This i just some of the issues in our relationship). My uncle, (who happens to be going through a divorce himself), recommended this movie to us, as well as his father who has had to go through a divorce as well. As we sat there and watched all we could do was hold each other. I don't believe there was a single second when we got up from the couch or even took our eyes away from the T.V. This movie is absolutely amazing. I am actually in the process of purchasing my very own copy of The 40 Day Love Dare. I have faith in God and I believe that there was a great meaning behind my father in law offering this to us. I want to say thank you to him and to my uncle. Thank You David and Lee.
Holly
holly
2/10/2009
I am not married so I do not exactly have the same story as everyone else in here, however I have been with this man on and off for 13 years. I am still in love with him as he is with me. WE just do not know yet how to love each other in the RIGHT ways. I have watched tis movie over 15 times and each and every time i watch it I gain more and more hope that we will through the love dare and god learn how we need to love! It is my hope that we will be married one day and I pray this love dare is the answer we have been looking for for so long. He finally after much resistance watched the movie with me and we went together to but the book. We are starting day one tomorrow. I cant wait to be able to truly love this man the way I once did he does mean the world to me and to our son, I want us to be happy again. We are both very excited to begin our new journey.
April
2/10/2009
My husband and I have only been married for seven months, and neither of us has been married before, so of course we did not know what to expect. We got along wonderfully when we were dating/engaged, but once we were married and living with each other, things changed. We started fighting more often, things each of us did that got on each others nerves. My husband has a welding shop next to our house, and he began spending more and more time out there as the months went on, more time than with me. Like Caleb, my husband spends a lot of time on the internet, but he is talking to his buddies about tractors and such because he loves tractors and heavy machinery. I have complained constantly that I wish he would get off the internet and spend time with me, because he will be on the internet from the time he gets home till dinner starts, then when dinner is over go back to the internet. I have asked him to simply sit with me and talk, but he never does. Someone told me that fireproof was a really good movie, and I had no idea how much it was about Christ and marriage. My husband and I watched it, after I practically begged him to, and the part where Caleb chose his wife over the addiction he had on the internet was really touching to me. After the movie was over, my husband looked at me, and promised to start spending more time with me than on the internet, he said he enjoyed sitting there with me as we watched the movie. We also agreed that like Caleb did in the movie, that when we felt the urge to same something negative, we would hold our tongue. I would recommend just simply watching this movie to anyone that is having trouble in their marriage, but seeking some spiritual guidance would also help more. My husband and I go to church off and on, but I would like to start attending more faithfully.
2/10/2009
02/10/2009
My husband and I watched Fireproof last night. It was the most amazing movie that we have watched in a long time. My husband and I have been married for two years and been together for four years. For the last year I have been so unhappy and miserable. We both have had our down faults. We both have had affairs. We never have had an addiction to porn or drugs. The only addiction we have had is remaining faithful to each other. He use to work from state to state and I would stay home with the boys and be lonely. I felt like I was a single mother again. This is both our secong marriage. We only got to see each other like two or three times every six months. He quit the road and we moved closer to his parents. His solution was to move from Georgia cause there was a guy that lived in Georgia that I was having an affair with. The woman he had an affair with lived ten minutes down the road. I felt like that was not fair to me. He said I was being selfish. Til this day, we dont trust each other. Hes not the man I fell in love with four years ago. I have prayed and repented to the LORD for my mistakes. But I keep repeating them. For some reason when I feel like my husband dont want me any more or I feel like im not appreciated I always end up calling the guy I had an affiar with and talk to him and he makes everything all better. Im hoping this 40 Day Love Dare book helps me save my marriage. Please pray for us!!!
Thanks to everyone and this movie
~Amy~
2/10/2009
PRAISE JESUS FOR SAVING OUR MARRIAGE OF 8 YEARS AFTER WATCHING THE MOVIE "FIREPROOF" & GOING THRU THE BOOK "LOVEDARE". I HAD FILED FOR DIVORCE WITH EVERYTHING GOING ON BUT 1 DAY BEFORE THE COURT DATE CANCELLED IT SINCE I KNEW I REALLY DID LOVE MY WIFE. HAVING STEPCHILDREN REALLY COMPLICATES A MARRIAGE MAINLY WITH TEENAGERS WHO DONT WANT THE MARRIAGE TO WORK OUT BUT PRAISE JESUS OUR MARRIAGE IS IN HIS HANDS NOW. OUR BIGGEST ISSUE WAS THE TIME TO HAVE INTIMACY WITHOUT THE CHILDREN AROUND. BOTH MY WIFE & I COULD RELATE TO THE MOVIE MAINLY THE FIGHTING AT THE BEGINNING OF THE MOVIE & WE LEARNED SO MUCH FROM THE MOVIE & BOOK. GOD BLESS!
DAVID
2/10/2009
This is a very inspirational movie. It touched me in a way thast few movies ever have. Many times I find mysrlf saying, "This movie really hit home." I now know that that was not totally true. There are not words to desribe what I now feel. I am hoiping to get the book soon to start the dare. I am going to buy or even rent the movie for my parents to see. Maybe then I will have their suppport in trying to make my marriage work instead of empty praises and words when I know they beliebe it will fail. It can work and I know it will. I just pray fore the strength from God to see me through. I ask that all who read this to please pray for us. Through Him your prayers will be known.
2/10/2009
My husband and I have been married for 7 years (as of 2/23/09) and the first few years were great! We were plugged into a church we both loved and had three beautiful children in the mix. Then our church Clergy left and we were left feeling empty with no real direction. We "church hopped" for a while and finally settled where we are now. During that time of NO direction we nearly got a divorce; several times. We hated spending time with each other and as a family. I spent the time with the kids and he went to work (he was married to his job, NOT to me.) We both found the love we desired out of each other in other things and people. I found myself making friends in chat rooms and at the bar (at least I was hiving fun!) Right?? WRONG! He found love in his work. Not with me or the children we shared. Now, I'm happy to say that things are getting back on track! After finding our new church we seem to be heading in the right direction. We watched Fireproof two nights ago...and saw ourselves in BOTH the husband and the wife. Depending on the situation they were in; we could find a comparable one. Needless to say, we had an amazing evening with each other! And are now both wanting to try the 40 day love dare with each other; things can always get better right!?
2/9/2009
What a blessing this movie is!! My husband and I have been married for fifteen years and have three children. For the last, almost a year, we have been truly miserable, mostly me. Friday night, one of my sisters sent a text saying I'll be over soon are you home? I said I was and she arrived later, Fireproof DVD in hand and said she felt lead to bring my husband and I the movie. He agreed to watch, with the attitude he always has, but we both wept in awe as we saw part of us in Caleb and Katherine. He has no pornography addiction, but everything else fit. I have had affairs, of which I confessed to him at those times. I feel lonely and unwanted all the time. He never puts forth any effort in our marriage but just thinks everything is ok if we aren't arguing. I saw tears in his eyes watching this movie. And I think we should both do the love dare, but he hasn't mentioned it anymore. I've decided to put my heart into it and do the love dare, unselfishly, instead of complaining that I think he owes me as well. My heart says that if I do this I'll EARN his love and will receive what I have been missing. I am so thankful for my sister, and God leading her to share her movie with us!!
Monica
Monica
2/9/2009
: I wanted to let you know that ive never seen a movie as good as this was. We have been to counceling tried things to help are marriage. This movie was more help than anything it really should me how wrong i have been to my wife thank you.
2/9/2009
2/29/09 My husband and I have been married for 11 years and we watched the movie last night and boy did it hit home. We have rededicated our lives to the Lord about 7 months ago but my husband doesn't think he needs to go to church that his football games were more important or some excuse or he would go because I want him to. I want him to go because he wants to feel the Holy Spirit work in his heart. I am far from perfect. I have a lot to work on myself. I ordered the 40 Day Love Dare and pray that God will heal both of us to have a Christian home for our little boy. We do alot off screaming and cursing at eachother. There has been alot of pain inflicted in the past and I for one really need to learn to not bring up things from the past. I just ask anyone who reads this to please pray for us. I can't wait for the book to get here. WE HAVE AN AWESOME GOD, I wish we had more movies out there like this. My inlaws rented the movie thinking it was going to be a firefighter movie and they are not christians. My father inlaw told my mother inlaw to tell my husband to really pay attention to this movie. I think it hit my father inlaw in a good way. Maybe some day they will start going to church with us.
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