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5/21/2009
Hi my name is Amanda me and my husband nate will be married for 2 years in september and have an 8 month old! we have had our ups and downs and it has been hard. He has cheated on me and lied to me. and our marriage has been rocky from the beginning. We are doing the love dare together.. And it is definitly helping!! we aren't very far. But we are taking it slow trying to remember everything and trying to stay calm. Its hard at times. But we are doing well and hoping to get better!
amanda
5/21/2009
I started the love dare today. My boyfriend of four years decided to break things off with me on Monday and I have been so upset, lost, and pretty much just miserable. I tried talking to him about working on our relationship but he seems to think it should be over. I don't want to lose the one man I fell in love with. He is so right for me. I have never loved until I met him. So, today is Day One, Love is Patient. Since we don't live together I can't be around him all day to demonstrate patience, but I did call him and I told him how wonderful a person he is and that I love him. I think he might have been confused as to why I called to say this but I made sure he understood and I just told him this was part of something I had to do and not to shut me out of his life completely. I'm not sure how much or if he even misses me, but I definitely felt so much better after making that phone call this morning. I haven't been able to eat, sleep, or think straight since Monday. A little relief has come over me since I talked to him, even thought it was a short conversation. I can't wait for Day 2. I hope that I can continue this journey and learn to be a better person and make the man I have loved for four years realize we cannot be apart. Please pray for me as I follow this challenge.
Alyssa
5/20/2009
I have just wrapped up the 40 days. Through the journey I learned so much about myself and absolutely enjoyed the peace that has been in my heart knowing that the anger that I felt for so long is gone and that is through the grace of God. My husband and I have been separated since October of 2008 so it has been difficult to do some of the dares but I did the best that I was able to do. Until May 3rd I hadn't been wearing my wedding ring but since that day I have been. On May 1, 2009 my husband ended up in the Emergency room and ended up having Gall Bladder surgery the following week. That made me realize just the love I have for the man which I have had all along but with that everything else hit home. The surgery that was to only take a couple of hours took 4 hours. One of the longest days of my life. They ended up running into complications. I was able to help him as much as I could with us not living together, he wasn't able to come back to the house which I didn't really like but he needed to watch and care for his children. I did all that I was able to do for him and I enjoyed every single minute. I don't know where God's path is going to lead us because my husband is fighting this but no matter what happens in the plan I know that he is my husband and always will in my heart no matter what. There are so many worldly forces that are getting in the way. It is out of my hands and it is in God's. I have and will never have any regrets especially doing the 40 Day Dare. It taught me so much. It brought me back to God's love so that is the best thing that happened through doing this.
5/20/2009
I just watched this movie today. It was suggested by a complete stranger. I decided since I couldn't sleep, I would watch it. I think this movie was a perfect glimpse into my mess of a marriage. I had to really look at what I have done to the woman I truely love. Unfortunately, she decided two weeks ago she had had enough. I have been devistated since. I made a decision to turn my life over to the care of God and accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and savior. I pray everyday I will have the chance to make up for the horrible way I have treated her for the last 7 years. I am going to take the love Dare and pray.
Joe
5/20/2009
Hello - My name is Heather and my Husband Matt is in the Navy - Seabees now serving in Iraq. We have been married for 5 years as of May 2009. Two beautiful little girls Alexis and HannahBell. We grew up in steady Christian homes and went to Calvary Chapel Caldwell and Middleton, Idaho. We have always taken considerate action to treat one another with respect, trust and love. We both have very strong relationships with our God and Savior. As a Navy Wife for 5 years, I don't always have Matt to rely on but my God is always there! We've had some speed bumps along with 4 deployments but we love each other with all our hearts. The Power of Prayer is a wonderful thing. God Bless you and DON'T Ever Give UP! Heather
Heather
5/17/2009
HELLO MY NAME IS AMANDA. IT WILL BE FOUR YEARS DECEMBER 2009 THAT MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED. WE HAVE TO SONS A FOUR YEAR OLD AND A 2 YEAR OLD. MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE HAD SERIOUS PROBLEMS FROM THE VERY BEGINNING. YOU SEE I WAS SAVED DOING MY BEST TO LIVE FOR CHRIST AND MY HUSBAND WAS AND STILL IS NOT.WE HAVE ALSO SEPARATED TWICE,BUT THAT WAS IN THE BEGINNING OF OUR MARRIAGE. IT SEEMS LIKE THE CLOSER I GET TO GOD THE FURTHER APART MY HUSBAND AND I BECOME. I KNOW THAT THIS IS A TRICK OF THE ENEMY,BUT I MUST BE HONEST AND SAY I WAS READY TO SAY THREE STRIKES I AM OUT. MY HUSBAND HAS NO RESPECT FOR ME, HE CURSES ME OUT,CALLS ME OUT OF MY NAME AND HE EVEN USED TO PHYSICALLY ABUSE ME,BUT WORST OF ALL HE IS A HORRIBLE FATHER.ONE MAY ASKED WHY WOULD YOU WANT THIS MAN. SEE WHEN I MARRIED I MARRIED FOR LIFE AND SLOWLY BUT SURELY I HAVE SEEN IMPROVEMENTS IN OUR MARRIAGE. AFTER WATCHING FIREPROOF TOGETHER WE BOTH WERE CONVICTED. WE HAVE ORDERED THE LOVE DARE. I KNOW IN MY HEART THAT ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGE ALL MARRIED COUPLES TO BE STRONG TRUST IN GOD AND DONT GIVE UP. PRAY FOR ME AND I WILL SURELY PRAY FOR YOU
AMANDA (NOT GIVING UP)
AMANDA
5/15/2009
Hi, my name is Stacee. I have been married for 13yrs. My husband brought me to the Lord and was first baptised on my 25th birthday with him. We were rebourn on the same day at the same time. My husband is my second and it was God that brought us together. We have been seperated before. Our daughter was 18months old and he left for his duty station in Japan. I stayed behind in the states for what I thought was a good reason at the time, but now I see that was a huge mistake because that is where our marriage to a hugh turn downward. After 8yrs of fighting to keep it together he moved out in Feb. 2009. I had been starting back to church and praying. Our pastor challenged us to pray, fast, read scripture, faithfully tithe, or what ever God was telling us to do. I took him up on that and I was going to give $40 x 40 days, pray for 40 people daily, and rest. I have 8 children in my home now and days can be long and nights short, this made me very irritable and hard to live with. As I started this my husband became more and more unsetteled and would not talk to me only argue. I had a minor surgery on the 14 of Jan. I then became very ill and was in bed or 2 weeks, in the ER twice, and then on the 26th he did not come home and when he did on the 27th moved out. Since then I have been through many more trials that would make even the toughest christian discouraged. I have been in church weekly, paying my tithes faithfully and praying for my family and husband without fail. He comes around to see our children sparaticly at best and they are both struggling with daddy's decision not to come home. A couple of weeks ago I bought the movie "Fireproof". I came home and immediatly watched it. When the movie started, it was me and my husband to a "T". Then in the movie the roles switched a couple of times, she was my husband and I was him, and then back again. When the movie was over. I went right back to the store and bought the Love Dare book and started it right away. I am only on day 5 because it is really tough to do some of the things while we are separated. So I have to wait on God to present a situation for that the day will be completed. But, I am determined and we have an AWESOME GOD that will work according to his word. As I read the other stories on this page I was compelled to share mine. I will pray for all marriages in this country, because we can and will defeated the Devil that is trying to kill, steal, and distroy this sacred union God has given us. I have also purchased extra copies of the movie and book to bless other couple I know that are struggling right now. May God be with us all and touch all of our spouses that they not only return to us, but to come home to our Father in heaven. God bless and keep the faith.
Stacee
Stacee
5/14/2009
Hi, i'm patience, married to Joshua, 2 children 2yr boy phillip and 4yr old girl gail. we live in Uganda, Eastafrica. Serve as pastors and administrators at a childcare programme of the watoto church(824 children, 56 trs, 114 mothers)
when I watched the movie, I was greatly inspired in various ways but the one lesson I learnt was that unconditional love is the way to go and the only one that can avail this is Jesus chris t 'coz he is the only one who has been there done that. Besides he is our creator, has a purpose and plan for our lives including our married lives but this calls for total surrender and great Faith in the Lord God Almighty.
The main church has about 3000 married couples so while at a pastors' wives meeting I shared about the movie and if all goes well we will be watching it in August or earlier after our family week so we are hoping to get the follow up material to the movie probably the love dare book and curriculum to help us in the marrieds cells.
Thanks its been a great blessing
patience
5/14/2009
I am a Marine, serving in Iraq. Just watched the movie on my own time and was very touched. My wife and I just hit our 4th year of marriage, but unfortunately were not able to celebrate it together. We have a very strong and powerful relationship and watching this movie really made me take a minute to stop and reflect... and it felt great. I may have shed the unusual tear.... no witnesses. I love my wife so much! And can not wait to get back to her. I miss the things we do together and I appreciate every chance we get together. I am not a very religious type, nor is she, but I believe in the vows as a covenant, the rings as a circle of trust, and the one code I have learned in the Marines that I forever commit to her, Semper Fidelis.
5/14/2009
RK
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Posted - 05/14/2009 : 14:17:13
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I love this man some wonder why we were together for 4 years hes an alcholic and when he would drink to much he would become abusive he never hit me he shoved called me bad names but I know he is a good man he was a youth pastor at one time and I know that the Lord is dealing with him. I left him and moved to another state for 5 months I felt that the Lord wanted me to do so I learned alot during that journey. Now I'm back home and we have been talking he says that he was crazy in love with me but his feelings have changed hes very guarded he says he will always have a love for me and that hes praying that the love he had before will return and so am I so he wants to take it slow I know that the Lord can and will heal and restore and I'm trusting God to do so so please pray for him and us hes a good man who has made wrong choices and been broken but God will bind up the brokenhearted
Gyla
5/14/2009
So much to say, I found out my husband was talking on the phone with someone he works with and say he never had sex with her. and she told me the same thing. He says he doesn't love her. We started to go to marriage conseling and the a terrible thing happend. He favorite brother was killed in a motorcycle accident in oct. since then he was not been dealing with anything he needs to. stopped going to the marriage conselor and just recently told me that he has not loved me for the past ten (10) years!! shocking because i love this man and thought we were in love. We have a young teenage boy that we would do anything for. Even if i means staying together for his sake. we sleep in separate bedrooms since i found out about the other woman. He has stopped loving me completely. But i haven't given up on him. I pray for him everyday. This is my third day and its very hard and sad, when i think about what he has said to me about the not loving me for so long. By the way, its been almost a year now i have been dealing with this. saturday is our 22nd wedding anniversary. I am not planning anything.. i am afraid of more disappointments. I keep praying for us and for him to find some kind of comfort in the passing of his brother and our marriage.. please can someone please pray for me and my husband..
dar
5/13/2009
I haven't actually started the 40 Day Love Dare yet. I have always loved my wife, tried to make her feel special and beautiful. I've always tried to respect her and give her what she needs to feel secure. But 10 days ago she had suddenly changed and was cold to me and its continued each day. She won't tell me me she loves me when I tell her I love her. She wont even talk to me unless I initiate a conversation. She is just now telling me after 9 years of marriage that she's ready to leave, that she's shut down emotionally a long time ago... this was all a shock to me, I never even expected this. We even saw the Fireproof movie in the theater and she never indicated anything to me about her feelings or that we were having a communication issue? I keep telling her that I love her, that when we wed that the committment I made to her was till death due us part, and through good times and bad, etc. and that I am going to try to win her heart back. But she didn't even say anything... I told her I love her and her answer was, "I know...".
I've asked her in a non-offensive way if she's involved physically or emotionally with someone else, possibly at her work (like in the movie), but she says she isn't. I told her that the grass isn't greener on the other side... that we just need to fertilize and water the grass and she told me that sometimes you have to set the ones you love free and if they come back then it was meant to be... this hurts me so bad! I can't just let the woman I love go...
I just keep praying but nothing seems to be happening... she's refusing to go to counceling... I just want her to love me again... I'm wi
I could use some prayers... will you please pray for me and my wife Sophia?
Joe
5/13/2009
HI MY NAME IS CATHERINE (JUST LIKE THE LADY IN FIRE PROOF, WHICH I FIND FUNNY) AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED ALMOST 15 YEARS AND YES WE HAVE HAD OUR UPS AND DOWNS TOO. IT SEEMS LIKE MORE DOWNS THEN UPS. THE MOVIE FIRE PROOF HAS OPENED MY EYES TO THE FACT THAT IN REALITY MY MARRIAGE IS SOMEWHAT LIKE THE COUPLE IN THE MOVIE. I HAVE NOT GOT THE BOOK YET BUT I AM STILL GOING TO TAKE THE LOVE DARE CHALLENGE BY THE EXAMPLES I SEEN KIRK USE IN THE MOVIE. I JUST WANT YOU ALL TO PRAY THAT THE LORD WILL GIVE ME THE STRENGTH I NEED. WE HAVE 2 SONS AND I WANT THEM TO SEE MOM AND DAD GETTING ALONG INSTEAD OF FUSSING OVER THINGS THAT REALLY NOT WORTH FUSSING OVER IN THE FIRST PLACE. YES I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND WE HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT SEPARTING A FEW TIMES, BUT AFTER SEEING THE MOVIE I KNOW NOW MORE THAN EVER THAT OUR MARRIAGE IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR. HE IS THE ONLY MAN I WANT TO BE WITH AND TO GROW OLD WITH. SO PLEASE PRAY FOR ME AS I BEGIN THIS DARE (ONCE I DO FINALLY BUY THE LOVE DARE BOOK I AM STARTING OVER FROM DAY ONE). I BELIEVE IF ALL OF US THAT WANT TO SAVE OUR MARRIAGES WOULD STICK TOGETHER AND PRAY FOR EACH OTHER WE WILL BE SUPRISED WITH THE OUTCOME. BECAUSE LIKE THEY SAY WHERE 2 OR 3 ARE GATHERED IN HIS NAME HE IS IN THE MIST. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL IN MY PRAYS BECAUSE MARRIAGES ARE WORTH FIGHTING FOR.
THANK YOU AND MAY GOD BLESS US ALL ON THIS JOURNEY
LOVE IN CHRIST
CATHERINE
CATHERINE
5/11/2009
Well I was sure my wife was going to move out the other day. She told me a few days ago and gave me a date. The day before the move was supposed to happen we had a long conversation. Mostly it was me talking to her. The next morning came and she is still living with myself and our two children. We had a big hug that morning. I told her I loved her. I know she does not feel the same about me. I told her that also, but I would continue to tell her that I love her. I have been completing the love dare for about two weeks now and am going to continue. I have not given up on her or the hope that things will get better between us. I asked in a earlier story for everyone to pray for us. I believe that all of you are part of the reason why she did not leave me yet. We still have a long way to go but with the lord entering more into my life as I complete the love dare I know that anything is possible. I keep feeling that I cannot go on with this any longer, but I truly love my wife and want to spend the rest of my life with her. I know that it will be god's wish if that were to happen. I also know that I need to work with him for that to happen. I will continue because when I feel like giving up he gives me a sign to say keep going. I want to thank everyone for the prayers and I will update you on how its going.
Thank you God for giving my life direction.
5/11/2009
I have been married for eight years. And although the first three years were a struggle, we pulled through and made it work. We recently bought the movie Fireproof, and we both watched it and it touched me. I bought the book and am awaiting its arrival. Our marriage is good so far, we love each other very much. My only problem is my jealousy. I struggle the most with this feeling. I have had women tell my husband he needs to leave me because I don't treat him right. I show my husband my love for him as much as I can and he says he has fallen in love with me all over again, but I stumbled upon an e-mail where he confessed his love to another woman. I don't know what to do! I so want to grow old with him, I can't see myself with anyone else. I only hope that the Love Dare will help me to show my husband how much I love and care for him and that I wont feel threatened by the women he talks to online. I try not to feel bitter, but its so hard when I feel like everyone he talks to online is a threat. Please Pray for me and my husband that we will grow only closer in our marriage and that our love will grow, not diminish. Thankyou and God Bless.
5/10/2009
Hello, my name is Jonathan. I recently seen fireproof and it has opened my eyes to say the least. We have been married now for the last 5 years and have had 2 wonderful children.
Our relationship has had it's share of ups and downs as well. 2 months ago, my wife left me and took our kids. About six weeks ago to the day my father came into town to visit us. He was very surprised and saddened to hear that she had left with our children. I believe it was just like Kirk Cameron's dad in the movie that my father also was a very vital part of helping me see what i needed to see, and hear what i needed to hear.
For the sake of my father and his wanting to see his grandkids, my wife agreed to come let him see them everyday. She was very shocked to see that the house was cleaned everyday she knew i was alone. (for I truly felt like i was doing enough by providing for our family's financial needs) But i truly didn't understand in full extent what i had done nor what i was doing differently. Until I seen Fireproof. It was very ironic to hear myself in the movie. It brought me to tears and really opened my eyes to the parasites and all the things that can come between spouces.
I am happy to say that she has decided to come home to me with the children. I can only hope and pray that I have been forgiven and my eyes opened to the power of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
Jonathan
5/10/2009
I have been married to my husband for 9 1/2 years. I love my husband so much and God knows that. My husband became ill in September of last year and we have struggled so much. I have struggled so much. I am a full time student and a mother of three children ages 6, 5, and 2. I am thankful that God has blessed me with my family but I had a hard time realizing that for a long time. I am taking the dare because I want God to show me how I can be a better wife, which I have not always been. I know that I can be a better wife and I am sure that the dare will help me with that.
God Bless You All!!!
Mindy
5/9/2009
My husband and I have been married 6 years this November. We have 3 beautiful children together. In October "I" decided that I wanted to seperate for awhile. Horrible mistake!! I wasnt happy because things were bad at home, i wanted them to be better I just quit putting forth the effort because I didnt think he did anymore. Well I turned to alcohol then things really got bad. I quit spending time with my children & taking care of my home. I felt I didnt have a family anymore why care. Yes it was my decision, my husband works in the oilfeild and is away from home alot. Well during the seperation I filled for a divorce because I had met someone else, thank god i slept through the divorce hearing. A few days after the scheduled hearing my brother calls & says he wanted to meet with me and my husband so we agreed. He says " hear me out and do me one last favor as my sister and brother-in-law. watch this (the movie "FireProof") together this evening. My husband and i agreed to watch it at our seperate homes, but we would watch it. Well it really hit home in my heart but I just brushed it off and continued with my crazy life. Well it is now 4 months later & I watched it agian at the same brothers home & this time Im not brushing it off. I am determined to give this "LoveDare" a shot for myself, my husband and our children. Please keep us in your prayers because I am you.
5/7/2009
My husband and I will be married 3 years in July, and we have a son who will be 4 in a few months. I have been attending nursing school for the last 2 years, which has put pressure on our marriage. The past year has been horrible. It started earlier, but the worst of it started May 16th, my husband was in an accident, he smashed his truck after drinking who knows how much. He smashed the right side of his face, and I thought this was an awakening for him, however in December I found this was just the beginning. In November things had gotten pretty bad, my husband wasn't coming home, and he just didn't really care about anything, and he slept all day. Money was disappearing more than before, and then he didn't come home at all one day. I made calls to his friends which are stationed in Washington state awaiting deployment. We talked and we thought he was doing drugs and drinking too much. Others had told me he was cheating on me, and he still denies those stories that others told me. His friend was sure that he was not cheating on me. . . well he finally answered the phone the next morning, when I was supposed to be given a final presentation for my nursing class, I was uncomfortable after talking to him, he sounded depressed and that he may do something to harm himself on the way home. While in the shower getting ready for school, I received a phone call from his friend, telling me his girlfriend had just told him and my husband and her had been having an affair, and that my son had been along for some of their dates. . .and they had sex in our house. That day he went into treatment for depression , suicidal ideation and alcohol addiction, while there he admitted he was also addicted to cocaine, and using marijuana, all which he previously denied doing while we were married. He went through his treatment and I have decided to try and make things work. He was doing well, but I still feel lonely, and the girl is pregnant, he insists that it cannot be his, but I cannot believe that truly until a test is done. She continued to try to call him and me, and I still wonder if she does call him or talk to him. His friend also told me he would hit on other girls and told him he had fooled around with them, again all of this he denies. He tried denying sleeping with her as well, until she told me herself. I cannot get over this, and I have trouble believing that he has not cheated on me other than with her, and I cannot stand by while he has a child with another woman, while I am his wife. I decided to give the love dare a try. I am a Christian woman, and believe in the contract I made with God and my husband. I am doing this without his knowledge, I tried to get him to watch the movie, but he said it seemed stupid, and he got a little upset, and even after I was balling because it hit so close to home, and I wish our relationship could end up the way theirs did in the end, he still was nasty to me and ended up turning his back towards me for the rest of the night. I am starting to feel that I do not deserve to be treated this way, that I do not need to be questioned and monitored, that I can't speak to my guy friends who I have know for 5-10 or more years without getting harrassed about it. He will be nice one minute and then give me a hard time about something, nothing at times. I feel like giving up on our marriage, but I do not have the energy time or money to go through with a divorce or separation either, and i don't want to put my son through it either. . . I hope this dare works. . .please keep us in your prayers
Erika
5/7/2009
My husband and I will be married for 5 years on May 22nd. We have gone through a lot over the past few years. We have part of his family living with us, since his step mother and father are going through a terrible divorce. I am on day 13, and although I feel that in the past days god has changed my heart toward my husband, I feel that I am slipping backwords. His father has been living with us for almost 3 months now and does not help out finacially with anything. Is has become such a huge burden to bear, because I am the woman of the house and he sometimes tries to treat me like his wife. I have tried to tell my husband over and over again that his dad needs to leave and move on with his life, my husband cannot bear the thought of kicking his dad out. I know that my selfishness is starting to rear it's ugly head again, and I am fighting it every step of the way. I keep begging god to help me through this. I know he is there and has done some very wonderful things in our lives lately with our marriage. I feel that the light cannot live amoung the darkness, and to be right smack dab in the middle of watch this terrible tragedy of divorce is killing his and I's relationship. I will continue on with the dare, because I know that the love god has for us will prevail, I am just trying to get through this with out reverting back to the old me.
I love my husband, so very much. I know that this has to work and I need to put everything I have inside me into it!
Thank you lord for this. I will also be praying for others on here.
Nichole
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