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12/17/2009
My wife and I have been married for 13 years December 6th. Although, we have been separated for nearly three years now. We are like many of the stories I have read here. We have a huge communication problem. We can't seem to say anything nice to one another. So yesterday I decided I wasn't going to say anything if it couldn't be nice. I did very well with that all day. We have two great boys that are having issue because their mother has left and she isn't around much. I have ordered both the movie and the Love Dare book. I am committed to saying my marriage at all cost. We have both stepped out on one another. It seems that the boys and I come last in my wife's life. I have a very hard time dealing with that issue. She keeps wanting me to do for her. I keep feeling like a door mat. She just keeps walking all over my feelings. Like for an example I saw a message sent from my wife's phone to her brother talking about how how this younger guy is in her eyes. In our 13 years of marriage I have only gotten well don't you look nice. There have been to numerous times I have called her sexy or gorgeous and meant it. Before we got married she was a kisser and a hugger. Then as our marriage went on the kissing got less and less. I am a very affection man and loves to tell me wife I love her. I still tell her today that I love her. It seems that I never get anything back in return except for an ok or an alright. My wife is my every thought. I wake up to the thought of her and go to sleep with the thought of her. She even comes to me in my dreams. She is like the Garth Brooks song More Than A Memory. Friends have urged me to seek either a legal separation or divorce. I don't want either of them. This is my second marriage and I don't want to see it end in failure. So please pray for my wife and I that we can resolve our issue and reconnect and reunite our marriage.
Sean
12/14/2009
my husband and i have been married 3 1/2 weeks before we decided to separate. YES, you heard it right, 3 1/2 weeks, not 3 1/2 years. I don't even know if there is a marriage that transpired between the two of us. We did, however, dated 2 years before getting married.
Unfortunately, our culture/tradition dictated too much to us during the wedding season which lead to our separation after 3 1/2 weeks. Everyone (fmaily and friends) became very invloved that everything became messy. On top of that, we both brought baggaes from our previous marriages into this relationship. We needed a lot of soul searching and improvement of ourselves. We've become toxic to each other.
We both did and said very hurtful, almost unforgivable things to each other that lead us to separate.
But after two months of not communicating, we both decided, without seeking approval from anyone except God, that we will work hard for this marriage to work.
We attended retrouvaille and they recommended to watch Fireproof the movie and highly recommended the Love Dare book.
We watched it and right after watching it, I saw my husband's awakening, the look on his face was different. He's always been more spiritual but sometimes people need to be outside the box to be able to see himself better.
We are still separated, we are seeing a marriage therapist plus into the retrouvaille program. He does however have a special friendship with a co worker with the opposite sex that I told him I was very uncomfortable with. He is defensive about this friendship but right after we watched Fireproof, he got what I meant.
We made an agreement, he will rebuild trust by stopping his weekly coffee/lunch with her. I also gave him my word that I will not bring this woman's name up anymore and stop asking him about her.
Today is the first day of the Love Dare challenge for me. I dont know if he's going to do his but I am positive that if I make the change within me, then he and everything else will follow. It is not only for him, it is for me, I want to improve myself this time. It is God's will to make a marriage work if both husband and wife want to and we definitely want to!
12/13/2009
I am 21 years old. Last March I met the greatest man in the world and it lasted for 8 months. We broke up for about 6 months and got back together this May. He came to me one day telling me he loved me, never wanted to hurt mo agian, and that I wa the one for him. A couple of weeks later we picked out rings. 2 months later the arguing started again. He said he fell out of love with me because of the way I was treating him because of my jealousy and trust problems. Even after as bad as everything has gotten, I still love him more than anything. I am willing to try anything at this point to restore what was there at our 2nd begining. We both have made mistakes. I feel like I have lost all faith in God, something I used to believe in whole heartedly. I really hope this helps me fix all that I have done. I will gladly take any suggestions and advice.
Jessica
Jessica
12/10/2009
Ok Here it goes. Me and my wife have been married 8 1/2 years. This is both of our second marriages. I waited 8 years between my first one. During that time really never even dated. All i wanted to do was make sure i raised my two kids up untill i felt like they were old enough to understand that i needed sombody in my life. I met my wife and we went out on one date. While i knew from that day that this was the woman for me she didnt think that i was interested in her at all. So then we really only talked on the phone a few times over the next year. Then we agreed to go out again and within two months i asked her to marry me and we married one month later. things were pretty good at the start like most is. Hardest part was finding time for each other with 5 kids between the two of us. Things were tough on us with money so we decided for her to go back to school so she could get a better job. Me im a good man. I work hard for my family and i end up trying to hard. Ill work 6 or 7 days a week and never think twice about it. If thats what it takes to get us by then that me. The bad part is that i lost focus on her and the family by doing that. But also during this time we addopted a little girl so now we had 6 kids total. Now my kids are all grown up one is 24 and the other is 22. But as most of you know kids may move out but they are still around even at that age alot of times. My oldest one is my problem child witch has cause alot of fights over the years between me and my wife because of me always bailing her out when she was in trouble. Any way through all of this i have found myself withdrawn for my wife and not paying attention to her. She has begged and pleeded we me for 4 years now. And me being hard headed didnt listen. I love her and while i didnt tell her enough or show her in my eyes i did. well last weekend we had a fight and she asked me to leave. I tried to talk to her but she said she wanted a devorce and nothing i could say would change that. While i left and tried to talk to her the next day and it was still the same thing. So im right now staying at my job. Anyway Tues was the first day in almoust 9 year that we didnt even talk on the phone with each other. And boy did it tear me up inside. I set down and wrote a letter telling her how it bothered me and telling her what she meant to me. Which as you can guess i got no responce form or at least not the one i was wanting. Any way last night i was sitting alone and was really having a hard time. i have been praying very had over the last few days about all of this and i guess was feeling let down. Anyway i was really have a hard time and was thinking about looking at porn on the internet which i have been addicted to for years but i have been fighting it hard. Anyway i left and went over to see my brother-in-law and my sister just to get away. Little did i know that God led me over there so that they who just started going to church could lend me this movie [Fireproof] . They told me to watch this and maby try some of it. Man was i blown away by it. I swear that the movie was made about me and my wife. Anyway im so glad God has shown me the way and that is to get right with him first and then if its his will i know it will all work out. Im aready went over tonight before she got home and left some note around which of course have gotten nothing out of her but i know she will be thinking about them. The other part to all of this is that i know God is working on her also and i believe that it took all of this to happen just for us to come to him. all i ask is that you please pray for us that what ever Gods will is in all of this it will happen and i really believe one day we will be together again but if not at least i know ill be living for the lord from now on.
keith
ps.....Oh yes im going to watch it again right now just in case i missed something that i need to know...lol
keith
12/9/2009
I am almost 6 years into my fourth marriage. I'm 54 years old. My first husband (at the age of 22) was a bare-foot hippie who was an alcoholic, the second a heavy drug and alcohol user, but who is the father (who never paid child support) to my 21-year old daughter, the third was an angry control freak (a truck driver) who was obsessed with money and tangible things to parade in front of everyone ... and now I have been married almost 6 years to a very sensitive, very emotional, very depressed, very angry, very talented and very loving musician. He's actually famous, everyone knows his music, but that's not what's important. What is important is that we don't know how to communicate without getting angry or getting hurt or getting insulted by each other. Everything we say to each other turns into a jab in the heart. I don't think either of us truly believe that the other honestly and truly loves the other. We say we do, but the trust issue just isn't there. He keeps saying that it feels like our marriage is doomed.
We saw Fireproof together at home. We were both hit emotionally by the whole message. We both heard the message loud and clear. He sat up that night and wrote a song based on his emotions from seeing the movie. He is recording that song now.
But since then, due to ongoing physical and emotional issues, he is irritated easily, paranoid, sceptical, untrusting, depressed, sick, and a whole line of issues that prevents him from feeling happy and good feelings. When he gets this way, he just shuts down and eats the wrong things (he's diabetic too), doesn't take care of himself, let himself run out of medicines, and just waits for someone to take care of him.
I, on the other hand, have continued to exhibit old, bad habits which I have developed over the years to shield me from confrontation, from hurt, from pain, from anger. I am selfish in a lot of ways. I don't like being told I'm wrong. I don't like being blamed for everything. And I haven't run up to the plate to care for my husband like I should because I feel overworked, used, spent, and helpless.
I'm starting the 40-day challenge as soon as my book is delivered. I am not telling my husband, because I want to see how changes in myself relate to changes in him.
Please pray for us that the Lord will hear us and honor our marriage and heal us. Our whole family needs healing. There is a wedge between two of our daughters and my husband is angry at a drug issue with my daughter's fiance. It's very, very hard to deal with, along with our own inability to love and trust each other. If I don't agree with him on everything he believes, then he doesn't think I am loyal to our marriage. We definitely need help.
Thank you for listening.
12/7/2009
Hi my name is stephanie and i have been married almost 5 years and together for almost 10 and it seems like our relationship was going down the drain till i watched this movie and i want to do the 40 day thing on my husband to see if the love comes back because i do love him very much he just makes me so flustrated sometimes and i say things i dont mean to him like yesturday i told him i hated him that i didnt like him anymore and i know that must of hurt him badly but he wont say that so wish me luck and ill keep u informed
stephanie
12/5/2009
My husband and I have been married for four years now. We were pregnant in high school and with a little pressure from his parents and mine, ended up married at an early age. We have fought bitterly for the last four years, the last of which has really been the worst. I have been unhappy for so long, unaware of my actions. I have taken my anger out on him and shown him that I don't respect him. He recently told me that he hasn't loved me for about a year and a half now, that he's just been "going through the motions" and "doing what a husband should do" but now he wants a divorce. It took me four years to realize that I have never wanted a divorce and how lucky I am to have him and now I have to come to the realization that he no longer wants me. He has reluctantly agreed to go to counseling with me and I hope we can solve the issues that have been plaguing our relationship from the get go, but I can feel that his heart is not in it. I only wish it hadn't taken me so long to realize that I was wrong. I love him and I hope somewhere deep in his heart that he still loves me, that it's just buried beneath layers of anger and resentment. Please pray for us.
11/29/2009
I am in a confused stage right now. It's been a month ago that I found out my husband was cheating on me. The worst part about it is that he won't tell me the truth what has been going on. he keeps saying i have no proof. i beleive in my heart that it is true. it has been going on for about 6 months. i know he is still seeing her and i even think he has had sex with this woman. my heart hurts so bad i can't even say. i am so depress and can't eat or sleep. i am praying to God to help me and save my marraige but i don't know what to do . i feel so lost. I just don't know what to think and do. i am hurt, humiliated and feel used. I always did everything he wanted in our marriage, still that was not good enough for him. to know that you gave 17yrs of your life to someone you trusted and then get lied to everyday is so wrong. i am not understanding why God is letting this happen. I feel betrayed and stupid. I tried to get he to watch the movie fireproof but he doesn't want too. It really touched me and I wish he could watch it. I am just confused in what I should do. Part of me wants to try the dare love book and part of me doesn't. I am just going to pray and ask God to show me what to do. I'm scared of being rejected. I already feel rejected! Please help me pray. I want to make the right choice. please can someone tell me something i need to hear. all i do is cry. i can't even do my work at my job. i am a christian wife that did what i was suppose to and look what i have received in the end nothing but hurt and pain. i don't know where to turn too. please pray for me that God will pull me out of this pit of hell i am in.
11/28/2009
Ive been married for 7 years..we have a daughter, she is 6 yr old now..we are both christians..on the 3rd yr of our marriage he started womanizing, i cant bear it, he always pushing me away and he always telling he did not love me anymore and he found the girl he wanted...so we got separated on Oct. 2006.. year 2007 he wanted to go back but i refused because i did not trust him anymore and im still hurting..but on 2008 i came to know that he has gotten the girl pregnant, im lost and my heart shattered..i ask God to vindicate me but seems they are happy with what they are doing..this 2009 late august my husband called me thru cellphone that he wanted to go back to us..i told him that he should separate with the girl but seems that he cant do it and he is not decided..and it hut me even more...please pray for us..that my husband can stand his grounf for jesus..that may God change his heart and surrende his life to jesus..please for me to contnue to trust God..
shiela
11/24/2009
My name is Britney. I am 21 and my husband is 25. We have been together since I was 17. It was love at first sight. I knew from the first moment I saw him that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. But from day 1 our relationship has been a constant chain of battles and challenges. My family didn't like him and his family hated me. When we became pregnant I was 18 and just out of high school. We weren't married and everyone around us didn't approve. Neither of us had a steady job and we fought so much we ended up splitting up. For months he tortured me... these are his words. He said every cruel thing he could think of just to push me away. Then all of the sudden he wanted me back. I was so young and in love and scared to death of having a baby on my own so I took him back without a second thought. We got married shortly after our son was born. Unfortunately we never worked out the problems that we had before we got married.
My husband goes through cycles. I can't predict them and I never know how long they are going to last, how bad they will get, or what will bring them on. Our relationship will be perfect one day and then the next he won't talk to me, kiss me, hold my hand or make love to me. He becomes cold, distant and mean. I just don't know what to do when this happens. So, I started reaching out. I would get affection from anyone who would give it to me. Mostly just harmless flirting over the phone or at work. At least until a couple of days ago. I pushed it too far in my desperation to receive the attention I needed so badly. I slept with another man.
I know how wrong my action was. I know there is nothing that I can do that will ever make up for the hurt that I have caused my husband. Out of respect for my husband I told him about what I had done. He needed to know that I had been unfaithful so that he could protect himself in the event that I brought anything home from my affair. The reaction I got was not the one I expected. He was angry at first. The word divorce was thrown around. And then he started talking about how he knew his actions had played a part in forcing me into another mans arms. How it was time for him to learn to open up and be the supporting and affectionate husband I deserved.
At first I didn't know what to think about how he was acting. I wasn't sure if it would last. I wasn't sure if he wouldn't just change his mind and kick me to the curb. Then he kissed me and cradled my face in his hands. He said, "Britney, I love you more than anything. I forgive you for what you did." Then I remembered a few months back we watched the movie Fireproof. I made a promise to him. I said " I promise to make you fall in love with me all over again. I promise to make you remember why you fell in love with me in the first place." And we discussed purchasing the love dare. We are both now fully committed to completing it and making our relationship better and stronger than it has ever been. I thank God for bringing this man into my life. I will do whatever it takes to fix us. Pray for us as we begin our journey. I know I'll be praying.
Britney
11/23/2009
I feel ashamed to admit it, but I'm in my fourth marriage. That seems tough to believe, since I was such a "good girl" growing up and had fierce plans to avoid my parents' bad choices. But here I am. The difference this time is my husband and I share a strong and persistent faith in God. That saves our marriage from soooo many of the pitfalls that I weathered before! But it doesn't save us from me. I have grown selfish habits through the years that don't serve me or our marriage well. Anyway, my husband doesn't know that I've begun The Love Dare. I'm on Day 16 and never dreamed I would learn so much about myself along the way. I have a LOT to change if I don't want to weaken our strong marriage! I'm writing about the Love Dare experience for a national women's magazine and you're welcome to come read. It's at http://skirt.com/getaclewis/blog/love-dare. Just please don't judge me for my crankiness. I'm working on it.
Cheryl
11/18/2009
My husband and I have been married for almost 5 years. We have a 3 year old daughter and a 16 month old son. Our marriage has been very very hard. I have a very devoted husband but the enemy was constantly attacking our marriage. We bought the Fire Proof Your Marriage DVD and watched it. We both cried and broke down in front of each other. The feeling of fireproof your marriage did not last long. Fighting continued. Alot of heart ache was caused and divorce was discussed. We both then re-surrendered our lives to Jesus Christ and made the decision that: We cannot change our spouses or partners. We can only allow God to change ourselves. This change of thinking and way of life HAS helped. I thank God each day for restoring my marriage. We are currently on Day 4 of The Love Dare. This morning I walked to my car and there was a chocolate on the roof of my car with a note from my husband saying "thank you for all you do for me and I love you so much". This brought tears to my eyes. All I would like to say is KEEP YOUR EYES FOCUSED ON JESUS CHRIST. I know this is very hard as life is unfair and throws obstacles but I have realised that without God, NOTHING IS POSSIBLE.
Jesus, I just want to dedicate this story to my husband and say "I love you so much". I thank you so much for wanting to sort our marriage out and everything you have done for me and our children. I am so blessed to know you WANT to love Jesus and serve Him with all of you. Thank you for loving me. Sorry for all the good times we have lost over fighting and hurt and anger but now we walk together for 40 days and forever more.
11/14/2009
My name is Jennifer I have been married for only 3 years but we have been together for 5. We still got married too fast I think. He was 27 and I was 21 when we got married.
I have a girl from a previous relationship she's 8 (i was 15 young i know but the best
thing I ever did). We also have a boy 15 months old. He has 2 boys from a previous
marriage, they dont live in the same city anymore.
We have been having issues since about 2 or 3 months into our relationship. That was
the honeymoon phase it was perfect, perfect first kiss, first date, he was perfect, i was
perfect. He opened doors for me, I always thought of him first. You know...Then that stopped and he because extremely mentally abusive, I inturn felt trapped and decided the only way out would be to cheat on him and get him to leave me. So I did, I have never felt worse in my whole life and have not and will not do that again. If not to him, then I refuse to do it to myself. Needless to say it has been a fight ever since then and we both do just enough to get by. I still feel however like he is mentally abusive to me, I have been praying so much and so hard I'm almost out of words. Sometimes I wonder if its even worth it, but I just keep on praying.
He has an addiction to his computer and his games, he wouldnt say he does but he has had it since before I even came along. When he gets off work he plays his game from 5- 1 or 2 in the morning EVERY night im not kidding. On weekends it from the time he gets off till the time he goes to bed. He even watches porn on it. This didnt use to be an issue for me until this morning I woke up and saw it on the monitor, and the thought just popped into my head why cant he just wake me up when hes in the mood. His computer is his mistress and now hes sleeping with his computer im just the person who does his laundry raises the kids, and cooks his meals. Im his house keeper/ nanny and thats all. We got into a fight and he said hes not talking me until Im ready to discuss divorce, I told him Im not talking about that because its not an option I didnt marry him just to get a divorce. He walked away and said well I guess you can come talk to me when youre ready to talk about divorce and he hasnt said anything since then. He wont even look at me.
For Valentine's this year I bought my husband and I the love dare book and Fireproof movie. We started the dare immediately but didnt finish it I think we only made it a week. I quit doing it because my husband wasnt responding, (foolish mistake) and he was making it into a competition and I hate competing with him. Marriage isnt a competition especially during a time like this, it's not about who does it better its about why youre doing it, and that you stick with it. I was wrong to give up, I shouldve kept going regardless of what my husband was doing.
However, I have decided to restart it and focus on it this time and not give up. Our marriage has gotten worse, we have gone to marriage counseling with our preachers, we have talked...sort of. I dont know what else to do. He wants things his way and I want things my way. I dont know how to get him to meet in the middle, I'm willing to compromise but hes not he has made that clear. Now instead of fighting when I start to get heated and tell him what I think of the way he treats me he says "Ok not talkiing to you anymore", then proceeds to ignore me for days even weeks until I come to him and apologize; all the while im hoping I apologize the way he wants so that I dont get ignored anymore.
I sure am tired of all of this Im tired of feeling abandoned, left behind and drug through the trenches. Im mentally exhausted, I dont know how much more I can handle. I cant take hiding it from people anymore I dont tell anyone about this anymore because they dont understand why Im still here and its almost embarassing to disclose that my life is this bad.
So here's to praying that God helps me with my marriage, Id love my husband and I to have a good life for once.
Jennifer
11/12/2009
Ok two years ago I got married, we did marry hastily as we only knew each other for 6 months before marrying. I had a child from a previous relationship that my husband accepted 100 percent as his own, which is such a blessing as my son had no contact with his biological father. We got married and moved to his home town far from my famly, friends, support group etc. After only three months of marriage he said he did not love me and wanted a divorce. I was crushed, I had given up my life, job, hometown, friends family etc to be with my husband. I was in a place where I had nobody. I begged and pleaded to go to counselling and try fix things and he staedfatly refused! So we carried on staying in the same house but seperate bedrooms for a couple months. It was hell on earth, he barely even greeted me. The tension was terrible but I refused to move back to my hometown as I believed I had to fight for my husband, the man I made vows too. He then served me with divorce papers and I refused to sign them. During those couple months there were a few times where we were intimate and the Lord blessed us with a baby. Which I believed saved our marriage. A few months into the pregnancy he decided he was going to try make things work and moved back into our bedrom. It was very difficult as we had both become so cold and distant due to the "seperation" especially him and he is already a very cold man, which has always been my fight with him, i need affection and love, I'm a woman. Anyway slowly but surely we seemed to be what I would consider happy as I had always my whole life been in destructive relationships and this semed the least destructive of them all. Baby was born and everything was still happy happy. Our baby is now 10 months old and things are getting bad again, really bad. We fight all the time, he is never prepared to talk about our problems and find solutions to fixing them, he has gone cold again and distant. Sometimes he will go a whole week withot talking to me. Our sex life has always been good though and last week I walked in on him "getting himself off" in front of the tv! I did not quite know how to process it all, I seemed so betrayed and still feel like that. He refuses to talk about it. Anyway from last week things are now quickly rollercoasting downhill and I am feeling desperate.. I am a born again believer and he says he is but does not fully dedicate himself. I have grown so much with the Lord the last couple months and always feel i'm being pulled back because my husband is not commited.
We bth watched fireproflast night, shew, what a great movie, I cried and it looked like he had a lump in his throat, think it hit home.
I want to do the challenge.
Wish me luck (or should I say pray for us please)
11/10/2009
I AM A 46 YEAR OLD MAN, THAT PRIOR TO 43 DAYS AGO, WAS A SELFISH INSENSITIVE HUSBAND TOWARD A WIFE WHO GAVE HERSELF 110% TO ME AND I DIDNT APPRECIATE IT, UNTIL I WENT TO JAIL. I WENT TO JAIL AND WAS AWAITING BAIL UNFORTUNATELY IT TOOK ALMOST 38 DAYS TO BE RELEASED BUT IN THOSE 38 DAYS I FOUND AND SAW WHO I TRULY WAS. I DID NOT LIKE WHAT I SAW AND LEARNED, I DIDNT DESERVE MY WIFES FORGIVENESS AND LOVE, AND I TRULY LEARNED THAT IF NOT BY THE BLESSING OF GOD I WOULD HAVE NOT RECIEVE MY FINAL CHANCE TO BECOME THE MAN SHE TRULY DESERVES. I KNOW WE ALL SAY OUR WIVES ARE GREAT AND THIS ABD THAT, BUT MY WIFE IS TRULY GREAT, SHE DEALT WITH MORE THAN ANY ONE WOMEN SHOULD DEAL WITH FOR THE SAKE OF LOVE. GOD HAS GIVEN HER A STRONG SENSE OF SELF AND SHE ALLOWED ME ENTRY ONCE AGAIN INTO HER HEART AND I WILL NOT LET HER OR GOD AND ESPECIALLY MYSELF AND OUR CHILDREN DOWN. I PLAN ON TAKING THIS 40 DAY JOURNAL SO SERIOUS THAT MY ONLY FOCUS IS FOR HER . I PLAN ON NOT MAKING HER REGRET ONE MORE CHANCE, BECAUSE FOR ME ITS MY LAST TRUE CHANCE FOR TRUE ETERNAL LOVE. I LOVE YOU ROSA AND THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH.
LOVINGLY
FRANKIE
FRANK
11/9/2009
I am not married but a year ago I was engaged to the man I am once again dating.
Things have been very hard fot us but I believe that with the love of God and the love we have for each other things will work out I am starting the dare and as today is the 1st day i believe God is with me evry step of the way.
Cindi
11/5/2009
where to start??? october4th is the day my world came crashing in on me. i found out several things about my husband. first that he is a sex addict, and has been having afairs with girls he hasmet at online dating services as well as using prostitution. he addmited he has been doing this for years!
i asked for a divorce- cheating is a deal breaker to me- he refused to give me a divorce and to leave the house- says he knows we can work this out. so now we are in marriage counsling- individual counsleing and he attends SAA(sex addicts annomous)meetings every week, we go to church every sunday and we devote an hour at the end of the day to talk.
we saw the movie fireproof. yes it did hit a nerve or two for both of us- frankly if we are to do the book- it will be very easy for me- i do most of it already as it is- for him, i know it will be a struggle- mainly because he has no clue how to communicate his feelings to anyone, much less me.
i do wish for my marriage to work out- but with so much betrayal, abandoment, lies i just dont know how to wrap my head around it all.
its nice to read all of the other posts, knowing so many are faced with some of the same problems.
i pray we all find our paths god has for us.
Kim
11/4/2009
I was married for 18 years with the father of my two children. We divorced 5 years ago, he asked me for a divorce. At first I was devastated, angry, sad, but I did agreed and we ended our marriage. I watched the Fireproof Movie about 6 months ago. I had recommended this movie to all of my friends. I wish that I had that movie when during the beginning of my relationship with my ex-husband. I had completed the 40 dare journal to get closer to God. This was the most valuable experience for me and I do recommend for anyone to do the 40 day dare as well.
My ex-husband is now asking for the Annulment of the Catholic Marriage. I am devastated that he feels that our marriage was not valid. I have a long and hard fight ahead but with the help of God, I know that everything is possible. Please pray for my family.
God Bless You!
JBG
Jackie
11/3/2009
My wife came home from her mothers yesterday and told me she doesn't love me anymore and wants out. We're both 21 and have only been married for 11 months. She told me awhile ago she still had feelings for her ex, but she says that thats not why shes leaving. She says shes just not happy. Honestly I have been doing everything I can to make sure shes happy. It might just be the fact that I'm currently unemployed and she is stressed out. I don't know what to ask you to pray for... I just ask you to pray that I can make her happy and convince her to stay, or if it is God's will that our divorce is civil and quick.
Lance
11/3/2009
I am close to finishing my 40 days. When I began, my wife had some major trust issues with me. The movie, Fireproof, was basically us. In the beginning, she ignored me. She did not want to make eye contact. She also wanted absolutely no physical contact. My saving grace was that she still treated me well in front of our 3 year old son. Anyhow, I started the dares, which were very difficult at first. Finding the time wasn't easy. After a few days in, however, I noticed a difference. I was getting less angry and frustrated. I was slowly changing. A more rounded individual. A better husband.
Some days were difficult. Calling my wife when she didn't want to talk did not go over well. Not saying 1 negative thing was very hard. Asking questions knowing that she is gonna rip me up and down and I just have to take it was not fun at all.
Then about 3 weeks into the Dare, I started to really look forward to each day. I was reading more. I wanted to complete each task. I wanted to be better. I liked who I was becoming. I enjoyed being creative and cooking supper. I recently bought a key chain with "Anything is possible with God" on the back. Also, I purchased a daily, inspirational calendar.
As I am finishing up the Dare, I am proud to say that my wife and I are doing really well. We are communicating more. We are open and honest. Throughout the process, she did not make me look like the bad guy in front of our son. She continued to support me and my endeavors. We are planning on having real dates and spending time together....just the 2 of us. Also, we are very much looking forward to our 8 year anniversary.
I say believe in yourself. Trust the process. And stay focused on your goals.
"With God all things are possible."
Matthew 19:26
Ryan
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