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2/19/2010
I met my husband through my sister in 2005. He was a tall handsome cowboy from Texas stationed in California with my sister's boyfriend due to his enlistment in the Marine Corps. My first marriage had ended about a year prior after a 6-year struggle, we have 3 kids together. My cowboy and I didn't start dating until October of 2006 when he came back from a tour in Iraq. After much persistence on his part I finally said yes to dinner with him. In a few short weeks I realized how different he was from my past relationships. He was kind, thoughtful, simple and loved my kids. We were married in late spring of '07. I was raised in a Christian home and although my parents were divorced my Dad's faith made a huge impact on my spiritual life, I just didn't realize it until I re-dedicated my life to Christ shortly after we were married. My cowboy, raised Southern Baptist, got me going to church again and God had called me back home.
I continued to grow in my walk, my new husband seemed to be regressing farther from his. I learned that he was a workaholic and threw himself into the Corps. and his love for ranching. I also took a new job that demanded more of my time than I should have allowed for a mother of 3 kids. We had our good times together, we both love the country life and horses. The good times seemed to occur less and less as time progressed. He left active duty with the USMC in early 2008. After being thrown back into civilian life our marriage all but deteriorated in a matter of just 5 months. He had a mild case of PTSD. It was also discovered that even though at 6'0" 170 lbs he was a borderline diabetic and was having blood sugar issues. He wanted to go back to Texas but my obligation was to stay in California for my kids. He started not coming home or when he was home avoiding me at all costs. I didn't understand, I knew he wasn't being unfaithful. He didn't watch porn and he believed in the scriptures in regard to marriage. But it still cut deep. I was an emotional wreck and the more I cried and yelled at him the more he pulled away. I knew in my gut that he was going to go home. With or without us. The kids and I moved out that November. I felt like such a failure as a mother, wife and to my God. He was moving back to Texas that December.
One night at home after hearing how good this new movie called Fireproof was I bought it from our church's bookstore. After watching it I never have been the same since. I bought my own copy of "The Love Dare." My husband and I the couple short weeks before he left started talking over coffee at Denny's on regular occasion. We decided that even though he was STILL leaving that we were going to try to work on things over the period of time he was obligated to staying in Texas, he had made commitments and he lived by the Golden Rule. After he left I stuck to the Love Dare and we tried to work on things over the phone which for anybody who has ever done a long distance relationship knows how difficult that can be. As each month passed his promises of "I'm coming back" went to "I'll be there to visit"...then "I can't, I have to study"..he had decided to pursue a career in law enforcement...to "You can come here to visit"...and then finally "I'm not coming back". My heart was broken. I gave up even though he didn't want to. How could you fix a marriage when you live in different states?
I poured myself into work, my kids and church to keep my mind busy. A friend of mine at work and I started sharing our pain of our freshly broken marriages. Mistakenly friendship turned into something more. I felt God tugging on my heart to turn back to Him. It took me 3 months to let the Lord win. (For the record...God remains until this day undefeated) I took a summer trip without the kids to Colorado with close family friends. My dad was also building a home there and I was anxious to see its progress. Before I left I had asked God for revelation and restoration to my soul. I spent more time than ever in the word and in prayer. I even attended a Sunday service at my Dad's church where I got THAT message that God intended just for me in podunk Colorado. I got to the church parking lot and He brought me to my knees, all I could do was cry. He told me that I needed to ask for my husbands forgiveness and that I had made a committment to Him to love my husband unconditionally. I called my husband that night and confessed all.He forgave me without hesitation. I learned that he had drawn up divorce papers but never could bring himself to have them served...AND he had still remained faithful to me even after I had given up. He also had been seeking counsel from a chaplain and knew where he had failed us and asked for my forgiveness too. As fate would have it he had just taken a job as a Sheriff's deputy that week.
Before I left that trip the Lord spoke to me again.
"Go."
Go? Go where Lord?
"to him."
Texas?
"Go."
"Trust Me."
I said Yes. For a month I wrestled with how was I going to break the news to my children? How was I going to tell their dad? He was re-married and had grown his family by this point but it was going to shake his core. Through one of my kids Sunday school lessons I was reminded of the story of Abraham and Isaac. After that I made strong resolve that I was going to be obedient and TRUST Him. Jeremiah 29:11, He not only wanted to bless me but my whole family. My kids were ecstatic to have their step-dad back but they were torn on moving away from their home. By God's grace alone they and I ...and their dad...who found Christ that year... were able to make it through the transition looming ahead.
After 10 months of not seeing eachother, my husband and I re-united when he flew to California to help move us to our brand new scary world. It's been a bumpy but wonderful ride these passed 4 months. I could tell you that everything is perfect and we lived happily ever after, but the reality of marriage is that it takes HARD work every day. I have a new job "part-time", the kids a new school and friends and we have been blessed with a church family that in a short time has become very dear to us. My husband and I are in marriage counseling which has been fruitful and also healing. I am still praying and trusting that he will give his life and this marriage entirely to the Lord.
I am on day 11 for the 'second' time with "The Love Dare". The book is not the remedy, but is a tool that has and continues to help me day by day to be patient and kind, leading my heart to love. Not by expectation of getting in return, that's the wrong motivation I had the first time. Now I'm learning to give selflessly to the man I married because it's not about me. It's about God, my daddy.
I hope this story can inspire you to "Dare to Love."
Marriage is a journey with a destination that makes the long trip worth the miles. I can't wait to get there. :)
Jen
2/17/2010
My story is similar to others I have read on this site. My wife and I have been married for 7 1/2 years and had a major fight on January 3rd. A fight that I used typical tactics of not being patient and certainly not kind. I stoop so low to degrade her and not respect her. Definitely not a way to treat the love of your life. I couldn't imagine someone talking to our daughter this way. Since this night, I have been doing a lot of soul searching and realizing what kind of jerk I have been: Selfish and greedy!
Unfortunately, she told me two weeks ago that she wanted a divorce and has spoken to a lawyer. Nothing I have been doing is working and haven't been religous for over 20 years. She even tried to show me the movie Fireproof in December and I just thought it had a good story.
Well, I'm opening communications with God and asking for strength, healing, and foregiveness for both my wife and myself. I'm doing the Love Dare and am struggling, because I'm not sure if I'm doing it for the reason of just wanting my wife back or because I want to have a relationship with God and know that I have received forgiveness and been enlightened by whatever outcome we have. I hope it is the second option. I have noticed that I'm more patient and kind. I'm not thinking selfishly or with greed and I have enjoyed this so much more.
Over the past 6 weeks, I have changed greatly, but my wife is not trusting it. She is set in her decision and I'm running out of time. So, my Love Dare is in a bit of a crash course. I have done many of the dares over the past weeks and have been able to get myself to day 24 since start this past Saturday. Either way, I do feel like the guy did in the movie at this point of the 40 days. My wife is so cold and mean, but I focus on the love I have for her and not respond with any negativity. I wake up every morning asking God for strength to get through the day and night and so far so good.
I pray to God that the best outcome happens and if it means we divorce, I feel some sense of why that is the best choice. We are a family with two children and I can't imagine them growing up in a broken home. Instead, I have had an opportunity to learn what is truly important in life by doing the Love Dare and know that our family could be filled with unconditional love and respect for one another. Please pray for strength, healing, and forgiveness for us!
Tim
2/16/2010
With all my heart, I trust that Our Heavenly Father, has led me here to this site. Quite literally, I was just going thru my husband jeans, cell phone, and wallet. I got online and did a reverse search for numbers I found in his phone. I hapt onto this site. I watched this movie when it first came out. I begged my husband to watch it with me, yet he refused-even laughed at me. Both of us grew up in christian homes. We both have strong christian backgrounds. Tho, we have chosen to place Our Savior on that book shelf that hardly ever gets dusted. We have been together since Dec of '02, and married since Aug of 03. We went to school together, and he was my younger brothers friend. We began living together in sin nearly a year before we wed. That was our first mistake, of a long list of mistakes.... I have two children from a previous relationship, and I fell in love with him b/c he was great with my kids. We never had a courtship, and that has damaged our relationship, among the many other things that have. Ok, so to make a very long story shorter, I'll just say; our marriage has had MANY MORE DOWNS than ups!!!! We are both very angry and resentful toward each other. I suffer from periodic stints of depression, and he is an alcoholic. Both are bad, but together, they are even worse...Together we also have a child. I am three years and a month older than he is, and it seems he never lets me forget how old I am. I have no problem with the fact I am about to be 30 in March. It seems as tho he does. It used to be this sweet little joke btwn us, but now its more of a sick joke. Anyway, I have prayed and prayed God touch us in a mighty way. There have been so many times that one of us wanted out, but the others love held us together. Lately, tho, it is we are both ready to throw the towel in. We are so angry all the time. We dont talk unless we are arguing, we live in the same house, yet we are all alone-if that makes any sense. There is very little love, if any at all. He has been unfaithful a number of times, yet I have tried my best to stick it out. I am to the point where I think "whats the point" My grandpa married us. He prayed over us, and believed in his heart our marriage was of Gods Will. I want so much to believe grandpa was right, so, I am commiting to this challenge. I do love my husband with all my heart and soul. I am just not in love with him anymore. I pray this is the blessing God has in store for my marriage and family. Please all-pray for us! Love In Christ, Misty Dawn
Misty
2/11/2010
I met my wife 20 years ago, while in High School. We were High School sweethearts. Over the years we had some hard times as we grew up but always remained faithful to each other. We were married 10 years ago and have 2 small children together. We have had some bad times but the last few years have been on a steady decline with regard to our marriage. Neither of us have been involved with the church only throughout life for Christmas, Easter, Christenings and weddings. Last year I returned to College to fulfill my life long dream of presueing a career in Paramedicine (Paramedic). While away to school for extensive amount of time our marriage broke down even farther than it ever had before. My wife and I took i guess is what you would call a break (Broke up) as I had moved out of the house and after a short period of time I met someone and moved on to presue a friendship that quickly developed into a relationship. After several weeks it was seen on my part that I missed my wife and wanted to try again. After completing my training i returned to my hometown with my family and tried to pick up where we had left of prior to attending college. We quickly found out that the fact that I had moved on with another woman was too much for my wife to handle and found ourselves broke up again.... This time She had filed for Legal Separtation. Several months have now passed and we are trying to build our lives back to where we have independance but over the last month I find we have found a bond that we have not had in a very long time... We Now spend time together talking, laughing and enjoying each others company. We Both want to get our marriage back together but my wife is now nervous to try again because it didn't work before. I see where we went wrong now and what happened to demise our marriage , and now know where I need to adjust (CHANGE) in order to be the man she wants me to be and the Man I want to be.. She also realizes where she went wrong and comprimized our marriage over the past few years. We both understand that the small things in life like the good morning kiss, kiss before work, intimate chats, greetings after work when you get home, the everyday loving embrases that are taken advantage of and let go as SOMETHING IS MORE IMPORTANT, like the pot is boiling over or a light needs turning off, needs to be prioratized and put in its place... All I can say is it may of taken months to realize and the embrase of another woman , but I now today realize I love my wife, my family and I want in my whole heart to spend the rest of my days loving my wife, my lover my best friend, my soul mate. I love you babe and hope we are together soon...
Kirby
2/6/2010
My husband and I got married in 2002. i was expecting a baby and I guess we just thought it was the right thing to do at the time. I loved him and he loved me, but we were not in love. our marriage was 80% bad and 20% okay. After my daughter was born, things got worse. He was angry and unhappy and i was supporting our household and hated him for everything. He was abusive to me and I decided to leave him when our daughter was 13 months old. We tried to speak here and there, he was completely out of our lives, which is what I wanted. In 2004 I left the state for one year and returned in 2005. Although we were in and out of court, we didn't speak to each other. I prayed for God to touch his heart so that he could except Christ. But at the same time, I hated him & lived each day to hate him for what he did to me. All these years, he never saw his daughter. In 2008, the judge awarde him monitored visits w/ our daughter. He only went to four visits. In January of 2009, we went to court for a review of the visits, I went to court by myself, i usually went with a family member. But that morning, my heart said to go alone. In court, the judge said he wanted us to work a plan out, I asked the judge if I could speak to my ex-husband (we were divorced by then) out in the hall. My ex was surprised that i wanted to talk to him. We spoke for hours after not speaking for years. He shared with me that in November (2008) he accepted Jesus and was Baptized. I told him that I had been praying for him. We agreed on an easier, friendlier visit schedule for our daughters sake. Long story short, all of 2009, we got to know each other, I think for the first time, and this year (january 2010), we re-married to each other. Because of personal reasons, he had to leave the country but we are doing the best we can, with God's help this time, to make this marriage work. He doesn't know this yet, but , during the summer, I did the love dare but saw no results, but a great friendship developed. To my surprise, we ended up getting married again. But this time, we're friends and God is at the head of our family.
Ingrid
2/5/2010
Five years ago, I met my husband online! we married in 2007 and I getting ready celebrate our 3rd anniversary. This is the second marriage for both us! We have 5 children among us, 3 are from his previous marriage, 1 from mine and 1 together! His oldest 3 live with us, due to their mom being negligent. Our daughter has had some health issues since the day she was born, the two boys from his previous marriage have severe emotional and behavioral problems. So to say the least, the struggles we have on a daily basis are huge.
In September 2009 it had come to light that he was "talking" to another woman and had become emotionally attached to her, I had asked her to back away and she told me "no". She told my husband to leave, he did, when he returned he became violent and a fight ensued, leaving me being arrested for something I did not do. I spent two nights in the county jail, where I FOUND my LORD AND SAVIOR waiting for me! I prayed for those 2 days that I was in there like I had not ever prayed before, I prayed for my husband, my child and my marriage! I told God that I didn't know what his purpose behind all of this was but I was going to TRUST only in him to get me out of it! He was certainly listening! I was out in 2 days instead of 3 days, and I didn't have to bond out with money, I was released on my own recognizance! I was able to drive to TN to be with my little girl! She was terrified, so it was so nice to hold her in my arms!
I have never had God work so rapidly in my life before! I kept praying for my husband to see "the light" and get some help, I had to have him served with a TPO so I could come home safely with my little one, once he was served those papers, he began to look toward God as well! it was a HUGE wakeup call for him!
About a month or so later, he called me and asked me to go with him to the doctor, he needed help! That is when we learned my husband suffers from bipolar disorder and PTSD! but with GOD, the proper medication, and therapy he is working on him, we ARE working on us and on our marriage!
I am seeing a new man, still not completely there but we have a starting place and for that I am very thankful!
All of my charges were dropped as of last month and now I can move forward, I thank my father in heaven for his hand in my marriage every day and for listening to me cry and beg him to intercede! WHAT A MAGNIFICENT MIRACLE HE PERFORMED AND I THANK HIM EVERYDAY FOR USING ME AS HIS CATALYST TO GET MY HUSBAND THE HELP HE NEEDS AND TO BRING HIM BACK TO WHERE HE NEEDS TO BE WITH GOD!
Becky
2/3/2010
Ok, firstly I have to say that I don't believe in God. I lost that somewhere along with everything else that mattered. My husband and i have been together for 5 1/2 years, and things used to be great. I think that I am the bad one in the relationship. I made some mistakes and they led to him making some too. We havent slept with others, but came close enough. He is deployed to Iraq right now and he will be home in a month. I am considering the love dare, but its for a different reason than most, it seems. He is a great guy and we are both 100% committed, I just want to make us stronger. I dont know if it will work, and I know he is willing to try it.. I just am so afraid to fail. I dont want divorce to ever be an option
sunny
1/31/2010
I have watched Fireproof for the 2nd time. I can't get my husband to watch it. I have been married for 6 years and we have 2 children together. I have the same problem the woman in the movie had with her husband. I am so upset and tired of trying to compete with the smut on the internet. I am stressed and tried of all of it. I feel that looking will lead to something more (which it has in the past). I now have lost myself trying to please him. I don't know if I should even try the Love Dare. I feel maybe I should just try to get back to "self". I don't know where to start. Please pray for us!
1/31/2010
This is for everyone out there who feels hopeless. I just experienced a miracle. I, too am in an empty, loveless, long enduring marriage. I bought the Love Dare book for both of us out of desperation when I heard about it on the radio and just completed Day One. His copy might already be in the trash can b/c he just isn't interested in our marriage at all. I just completed Day One and my mouth hurts from holding my tongue and not speaking during his daily bits of punishment and anger. But here's the miracle - I got thru it and after I read Day 2's Dare I really just wanted to throw up b/c the thought of doing something kind for a very mean person is making me sick... yet... as I was questioning God about why I should even try to do this, a loving, peaceful feeling just came over me and I was compelled to write in this blog. Here's the miracle: As I was seething about having to do something nice for Mr. Mean, and predicting that this entire journey could still see the end of our marriage - I realized that the journey is really about me forming my relationship with God. No matter how rude or mean my spouse may seem or is, it doesn't matter any more or hurt as much b/c this entire 40 Day Dare is for me and God. If a renewed love comes from it with my husband, then that would be thrilling. But if it doesn't, it isn't my biggest fear anymore b/c what's more important is that I follow God's word and learn to lead my heart. I FEEL A GREAT SENSE OF PEACE today on day two. My other tip is to go out and rent the Fireproof movie b/c it shows how long it takes to really make it work and how you really need to hang in there. At one point, right in the middle of the 40 day journey, one spouse serves the other with divorce papers! Yet it still worked out. Hang in there everyone. We can do this.
Connie
1/30/2010
January 30, `10
1:49 am...
Well, i'm waiting for my Love Dare Journal and am willing just to try it out....i just finished watching the Fireproof movie and have to admit i was touched..i've been married for almost 11 years and i can say that i'm the bad guy in this relationship..i'm the one who has failed God, my wife, my kids, my pastors, my family, friends & myself..i have told the woman that i met and married at church that i don't love her anymore..i feel that my heart is gaurded, afraid and wounded at the same time..because i realized that when i have hurt her, i hurt myself as well...i feel empty, lost, lonely, afraid, and in need of love..yet at the same time feel like i'm rejecting the love of my God & my wife....i'm crying inside, i cry in silence so noone can know..i don't want to cause stress to anyone, don't wanna bother anyone.....just wanna go through this alone if i have to...but if God is willing, may He walk with me.............forgive me God for straying from you & rejecting your love and rejecting the love of my wife.......forgive me for the many sins i've committed.....in Jesus Name....Amen!........
Ray
Ramon
1/29/2010
I just got finished watching the movie Fireproof. I have never been that much of a religious man. I have been married to my wife for 11 years now. She is a wonderful woman. We have two daughters and a child on the way. I wasn't expecting the movie to move me like it did. It wasn't until I watched that movie that I realized I was treating my family bad. I put too much effort in things that I like, and not what she liked. I am selfish and greedy. I can admit that now. Today, I am taking a stand to change all that. I did things and said things to hurt her. Never realized that until today. I guess my story is more of one of a realization. One of a wake up call so to speak. I am going to make the change today, to save my marriage and family before things get beyond control. I love my family too much not to make the change.
Kevin
1/29/2010
Just remember that the power is not in the book. The book is a tool to help us get to the place where God can work through us. Peace be with you all. God is in control. And He loves you unconditionally, and loves your spouse as well.
1/28/2010
My husband and I watched Fireproof together, and joked hey this sounds like us and both agreed it was a good movie. Little did I know then how much I would need this now. I am in need of help and prayers, and so my story begins. We have been married for almost 9 yrs. Have two wonderful kids 5 and 7. Several yrs ago I caught my husband into internet porn...which almost killed me when he was sending naked pics of himself to women. I forgave but never forgot. Then about 2 yrs later I met someone who gave me the attention I so desparately craved, my husband confronted me about this and I admitted I slept with the man 1 time to which my husband gave me the ultimatum the other guy or my family. I ended it the next day with the other guy and have been devoted to my family since. I found out over the summer my husband had been seeing another woman who as he puts it "is in the same boat as him marriage wise....unhappy and don't know what to do" He was spending time away from me and kids. Texting her our whole vacation in july and I didn't find out til last month. We went to marriage counseling whom suggested we separate we did for about a week then he came home only to be sneaking around with her still. He said he has since then stopped seeing her yet he refuses to take her off his friends lists on facebook. He has been diagnosed as bipolar and paranoid schizophrenia and taking meds for this but has been drinking on top of it. He left in sept and is still gone, he tells me he wants us to be friends and see what happens between us, but how can I just be a friend to my husband? I need the love and honesty, security and intimacy. He says he will never divorce me but he is not in the right fram of mind to be a husband....He says he has forgiven me for my infidelity but never forgotten and swears to everyone he has not slept with this other woman. He refuses to communicate his feeling with me....I am hopelessly in love with him and he is playing games and is shutting everone out, even his dad who is he best friend, but see his dad is also a preacher so the devil is working on my husband and he will not listen to his dads advice.....I need prayers, I have't been as srtong in my faith aas I should be I need to turn it all over to the Lord...........I am so broken I don't know what to do
carmen
1/27/2010
My husband and I had been married for almost 13 years, when he meet a friend from grade school on-line. They rekindle a friendship that they thought they had lost, it grew over time to more then just a friendship and he ultimaly left me me for her. We were divorced in October of 2009. He moved several states away to live with this other women in sin and left me and our son heart broken. I forgave him, it was the hardest thing I have ever done. Just days before our divorce was final, his girlfriend kicked him out of the house. He had no place to go. As sorry for him as I felt, I cuold not allow him to come home, nor did he want to come home. Now he is living with his parents. We are working on our relationship and we are talking more now then we ever did when we were married. We are even taking the Love Dare together. Hopefully in the end we will be able to get back together. The Love Dare has made us talk about things that we had burried years ago and never really talked about. Thank you for this opportunity to make a relationship right again.
Christi
1/24/2010
My husband and I had been married about 5 yrs when I found out he had cheated on me. Slept with a girl from high school one night. He denied it to no end and swore and swore he didn't do it. I knew he did by the way he was acting and the look on his face. I forgave him as hard as it was but I couldn't forget. We moved on with our lives and 4 children then about 3 yrs later I found myself falling for another man. I never fell out of love with my husband but I loved this other man too. When my husband found out about it, that caused me more hurt than I could bare. I have never had sex with anyone except my husband, not even the other man. He showed me the attention and had conversations with me that my husband didn't have. At this time my husband is still denying that he ever cheated. He forgave me and I ended it with the other man. We have had our ups and downs over the years and always gotten through it.
We watched fire proof about a year ago and this past november we celebrated our 21st anniversary. I can honestly say that movie and the love dare had a huge impact on us and brought us closer together. In December he changed alot in a good way though!!!! We talked and talked like we had never talked before and he even admitted that he cheated on me back then. I told him that I had forgiven him but not forgotten because I never knew the reason why. I never done anything back then except take care of our 3 small children and waited on him to get in from work. He tells me he don't know why he did what he did except he was just young and stupid! I KNOW THAT HE IS THE MAN GOD INTENDED FOR ME AND WITHOUT GOD WE WOULD NOT BE TOGETHER. See I met my husband when I was 15 and have been with no one else since. Thank you JESUS!!!! it's all because of YOU! keep us in your prayers
Melissa
Melissa
1/23/2010
My husband and I have been married for a little over 6 months and we have struggled with our families’ tremendously. He has a son from a previous relationship and wants joint custody. We had to move from California to Indiana for his job and his family said that we were abandoning his son even though we still fought for custody. To top that off my niece was an out of control teen who both my sister (her mother) and my mom begged my husband and me to take and live with us in Indiana. That went over like a lead balloon. She didn't like the rules in our house and ended up going back home.
I think that God brought us to Indiana for a reason. My husband's family was especially controlling with his son and thought that they knew better how to raise him even more so than his own father. My family has co-dependent issues and the drama would sometimes bleed in our relationship. We miss our friends and family but we don't miss the drama. We bought our first house and our neighbors are all great. Most of which are religious and make their families a priority (unlike in CA where your job was your priority because of the survival factor due to the high cost of living). We have a support group here with our friends that help us through the tough times.
After watching Fireproof, we both realized that we too feel in a rut because of the negativity from our families and the custody battle. The stress took a really bad toll on us and our relationship. Things didn't seem like they were getting any better until we watched Fireproof and started reading other religious materials geared towards marriage.
We have started praying every night again and we try to do or say something nice to each other each day. This is only the start. We hope that with time we will be able to be able to fight fair and spend more time laughing instead of stressing out. Sometimes the stress and issues take over and that seems to be the only thing you have in common and/or talk about. But, there is hope! If you trust in your heart, GOD, and your marriage it will work itself out.
It can be really hard at times but it is worth it. One of my really good married friends once told me, "If you give nothing you get nothing and if you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always gotten." Inactivity is not the answer. Marriage is work despite what the fairy tales say. The good thing -- is it is worth the effort.
The day you give up is the day your marriage will start to die and eventually erode. I just hope the statistics change one day to reflect that the majority of married couples actually stay together instead of the other way around. Those days must have been nice when you actually believed you would stay married for life and when your children had a mother and father for their entire childhood. What a thought huh?
The other day my husband sincerely said he was sorry for something that hurt my feelings. I actually believed him and saw that he still loves me. These are the times that you have to remember and build upon. I feel like we are getting closer and I am starting to feel like there is hope. Something neither one of us has felt for a while now.
Good luck to whoever reads this. You are not alone. You can choose how you behave and you can decide if you will try or give up. Hopefully God will help you see things through, create a positive support group for you, direct you to helpful literature, and allow you to be around other couples who you admire and can work towards being like.
There is always a stronger couple out there when you are weak and there is always a weaker couple in need when you are strong. I hope that my husband and I can be a positive influence to some of our struggling friends when we become stronger. I would love to help someone like my friends and neighbors have helped us.
God bless.
Lori
1/23/2010
Well, as you know K-Love is doing the Love Dare from the Fireproof movie. I let ray drive sometimes to work and this day I did, so as I had my eyes closed they were talking about being a safe place for your spouse. I heard Ray say"A safe place, I can do that" that threw me into a very humble mood. I cried on the way to work because of being blessed I have a husband who is wanting to wrk at this marriage and put God first and even do this work with me.
He calls me his best friend. I could not thank God enough for bringing me someone who actually cares if I am dead or alive, if I am feeling ok, and who really loves me. who shows me respect, treats me like a lady ( of course when he kept me pure before marriage I knew this man was different then any other), wants to talk when I am sad, listens and takes me aside by my hand and will tell me " Let's give it to "Dad" (God) and who lifts all our children to "Dad" everyday. Of course,he can be stubborn, but the good always out weighs the bad parts of him and me.
He brings out the best in me.
We have been married 5 months and together 3 yrs. For those who would like to know. I tell him we are in our Honey moon phase, but he says this is how is going to be all our lives.
Be encouraged. God does work in marriage no matter how long you are together
Zelda
1/22/2010
Please pray 911 for us as a couple. Last 2 yrs. we've grown apart. She's a workaholic & not interested in me anymore. We're christians, but she's distant. Living in a marriage with no intimacy at all is killing me. I just turned 50 & had to retire at 45 as disabled from law enforcement. I'm so lonely. We got married at 19 & 17. Been married for 31 yr. Have 4 grown daughters. The pain is almost unbearable some days from this. She hasn't mentioned the D word & she has no interest in anyone else. Our marriage just isn't important anymore. We are not on her list of priorities.
It's so hard to do the love dare when she's not interested in us, or me. I need a miracle.
Bryan
1/20/2010
Can someone please post a story about how God has restored your marriage? Anyone who is reading these needs to read positive experiences about the redemptive power of God in marriage. We all need to hear how this book has changed the lives of men and women who have struggled in their marriages but through God's help, relationships have been healed and restored. Thank you for anyone that has an encouraging story to tell.
Brian
1/19/2010
My husband is having an affair. I have got the book and am working it. I believe that the lord will save my marrage. I love my husband and want to stayed married to him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 15 years. I will continue to keep my faith. The lord is the only one who can fix this. I have two chidren 6 and 4. They want there dad to come home. I believe that god wants my marriage to work and the lord will forgive him and so will I. He has strayed from the lord, I pray he finds his way back. Keep Faith. The lord will see us all though.
Cassie
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