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11/10/2010
My husband and I have been married since Nov 12, 2005 which means our anniversary is coming up Friday! 5yrs. Although things my seem good they really arn't. My husband is in the Navy and I am a stay at home mom ,I also home school my son. I had found out a couple of weeks a go while my husband was on a Detachment that he was emailing other girls, and he has lied to me and of course I already knew he had a drinking problem so that part is nothing new. I wanted to divorce him because it really hurt me that he was talking to other girls and while he was home 2 months before he left. But I relized I can't just do that because I do love him and I hope he is willing to change. He is back now and I just found out yesterday (when I started the Love dare) that we got new orders to go to South Tx. Anyways my point is that I don't trust him and I know I need to. I really pray that he love dare works for us because I know he is not perfect and neither am I.
Salina
11/10/2010
This is a big step for me. Sadly, almost a last resort, when it probably should have been a first solution!
My husband and I have been together for 10 years, married for almost 6. In the far past (4 years) I have lied to him and hurt him. I never cheated, but he thinks I did because of the lie. He now told me that he doesn't know if he can ever get over it or move on from it. I was already on Day 10 of the Love Dare. I am continuing to do it. I am convinced that this is God's way of testing me. I have never done something like this to help improve myself. It was always to try and help others. When now I am realizing that I need the help. I need to work on myself to better my marriage.
I love my husband dearly. Father of my daughter and soon to be son. I pray harder than I ever have that God will heal his spirit. Strengthen the light inside him and guide his heart to mine. I pray that God will take my marriage, take the worries and stress and give it back to me stronger than it has EVER BEEN!
I do each dare and I feel stronger about myself. I feel like I am able to handle what the world is going to give me. And in the end if my marriage ends because he can't get over it, I will know that I did everything I could and I showed him love daily.
God, I ask you to guide not only my spirit and my husband's spirit, but everyone that is seeking your refuge on this site. We all need your guiding light and love in our hearts, spirits, and minds. God, I know you can help us. You are AMAZING! I praise you and give you the power to make our lives and relationships stronger than we could ever imagine. It won't be overnight, let us accept that. But, you are always there. I LOVE YOU!
Mary
11/10/2010
I married my husband at the age of 16.. now im 25 and these past 8 yrs of marriage has been absolutely crazy and hard.. About 5 yrs ago we began having some marriage problems.. we moved in with my sister and she has 3 kids.. my husband says he felt uncomfortable making love in her house bc she had kids.. even when they werent around he still wouldnt touch me.. he always says he was to tired, or there was always an excuse for why we couldnt have sex.. I was a lil overweight so i began this huge diet in which i lost over 90lbs.. No lie I looked great and everyone noticed and paid attention to it except my husband.. I did it mostly so he would b more attracted to me bc i thought that was the problem.. which obviously wasnt the issue after all.. we went three months without having sex but over that time i wasnt having sex with him but i was having sex..
I found comfort with other men.. If they were attractive and showed me attention I gave in to temptation and had sex with them.. In the 5 yrs I have been cheating I have been with other 35 men besides my husband.. i do feel bad but at the same time I really want someone to awknowledge me and to want me.. Over time we do have sex on occassion but its not that great.. bc every time we do i feel like im gettn pitty sex bc i have begged for it.. Im always tryn to figure out whats wrong with me.. why dont he want me... i get the feeling that our problem is more than skin deep.. Im sick and tired of lying and cheating bc its soo stressful having to cover all ur tracks... Now we have a 6 month old baby and im not even sure if its his baby.. He knows and regardless he said he will raise him like he was his own.. He dont really want to kno if its his baby or not bc he loves my son.. So thats not really a problem.. but needless to say my husband would NOT have sex with me during my entire pregnancy and I would not cheating during that time bc i didnt want to risk catchn any disease since i was pregnant..
Now I want to see if I can save my damaged marriage.. My husband also watches porn and plays video games every night which puts a damper on our marriage bc the time he could b in bed making love to me hes playn games.. I get up at 4 am for work.. i go to bed at 12 so i get 4hrs of sleep every night... thats all so i stay soo exhausted all the time.. i am irratable and i do say things i dont mean.. I kno I have hurt my husband but I feel like my heart has been shattered bc i dont kno why hes not attracted to me or why he dont love me like he use to.. i pray he hasnt found someone else.. I may have cheated but i have not found someone to love yet.. im giving this a try as my last resource.. i watch Fireproof almost every day bc every single time i watch it i find inspiration and i need to be inspired bc i lose hope so easy.. I hope this works otherwise after Christmas my marriage will b over.. We have tried for years to fix it .. i dont see much hope bc i am really hurt and i try and he dont.. we still live together so there may be a small chance.. I do believe in Christ.. I do admit that when i was a follower of Jesus my life was going in a better direction.. I pray that the 40 love dare and christ help it can turn my mamrriage around
Courtney
11/7/2010
My husband and I have been together for 4 years and have been married for 2 and a half.
About a month ago, he dropped the bomb on me that he is no longer IN love with me, but will always love me as his best friend. We have a one year old son together, and I am trying to keep myself from falling apart, for his sake.
My whole family up and moved the same month that him and I got married, and six months later we were pregnant. Things have been stressful since the beginning and I supposed they have been deteriorating since then, as well. I haven't been working because I have no form of childcare. We have both been under alot of pressure and the resentment and anger on both sides have piled up so horribly. The difference between us is that all this has made me realize how badly I want to change for the better, and how much I love him and want to make things work, but for him, he has disconnected completely and now feels nothing. To his credit, he hasn't left me, and he has been trying his absolute best to work at things with me.
I have come to realize that this has all been a blessing in disguise, as I now have a growing relationship with God, and new found peace, contentment and appreciation for my husband and marriage.
I am on day 6 of the love dare, and trusting in God's will and that he knows best, no matter the outcome.
11/7/2010
This is not easy for me, I have just started the 40 day love dare so I have a long way to go.
I am in my 9th year of marrage and I have been unfaithfull and have admited to a porn addiction in which I am reciving good help and sound councel.
I am still so in love with my wife, we have an awesome daughter 5 years old.
My wife has told me to leave the home and I am staying not far away with my Brother-in-law and Sister.
My wife is understandably angry and unable to forgive me at the moment, we have both watched Fireproof and am hoping something will spark in her remembering the movie, She bougth me the T-shirt that says "Never leave your partner"
I am crying out to God daily for our marrage to be restored, I am a Paramedic and do shifts in a remote area 8 days at a time so the Dare will be hard to complete in the required 40 days but I am comitted to fighting for my marrage and my family.
I know its a walk with Christ first and formost the comes the Miricles and the sensational restoration of Husband and wife.
I will let you guys know how it all turns out...
Much pain and hummility,
Tim
Tim
11/4/2010
My wife and I have been married for 17 years. We started young, and were for the most part inexperienced in life and love. We knew that we loved each other all along but things were never easy. Things started when I was with some "friends" and they met some girls in town. I felt the need to be part of the group so I went along with it. Nothing happened but I was still being dishonest to my wife and family. We stayed together but there was always the lack of trust from what I had done. Several years later, it was rumored that I was messing around with another woman. There was no truth to the rumor but still, my wife had questions and once again, insecurity and lack of trust was there. After we had been married for 12 years and had three wonderful children, our lives were so busy that we started moving in opposite directions. My job had me working 10 to 12 hours a day and Marcie would spend her time with her frineds, taking the kids to their house, and was rarely there when I got home. I thought I was losing everything and found another woman to talk to. This was all it was at the time, then as my feelings of despair got worse, I allowed myself to go outside of my marriage. My wife and I tried to make things better, make things work but I was so ashamed of what I had done and afraid of losing my family that I never wanted to talk about it. I never could admit to what I had done and then I continued talking to her, or other women, instead of my wife. She has stood by me through all this until finally I guess it got to be to much. My wife contacted one of her old "friends" and began talking to him. She then went to her hometown and went to see him, all the time keeping things from me. My wife has always told me to open and honest and she went against everything she was. Finally, several days before she was coming home, she met him and he took her to a hotel room where things were pushed by him until she too, went against our wedding vows. At this point, she is unsure if she can open her heart to me, to allow me in to love her and be loved. I have prayed for her to be forgiven, I have forgiven her myself, but she has still not found it in her heart to forgive me for my mistakes. I love my wife with all my heart and soul and have asked for prayers for her and us. I hope this jouney can help us become stronger together and make a much better couple, friends and parents. She is my life, my love, and want only for her to be happy with all she has in life.
Joshua
11/2/2010
My husband and I have been together almost 8 years. In March of this year, we split up. We were apart for 6 months, before realizing our love for one another, and the love for our kids. We both made some awful decisions during the 6 months, and have asked our church for prayers. We know we can make this marriage work, but it has been a tough struggle for us. Please help FIREPROOF our marriage!!
Nikki
Nikki
10/31/2010
I am a horrible wife. I do not know why. I can't show love and affection openly as I'm afraid I'm getting judged by someone. My family my kids my friends I don't know I just always feel like someone is saying why do they act like they are all in love? But I want to be in love and I want to have a blessed marriage. My husband and I have been married 3 yrs. He moved out last week because I do not honor and appreciate him he said. And he is completely right. We have one daughter together and I had 3 kids when I met him. But he is the only father they know. I decided to do the love dare because I can not lose him. I love him so much and I never shoed him. I have been in prayer constantly for several days trying to fix this. If only I had prayed so much when he was still here. I know it may not be fixed this week or even this month but I will be patient.
donna
10/31/2010
My husband and I have been married for a little over 13 years, but been together for over 16. Our marriage was great until a few years ago when things went down hill. I have made MANY mistakes in our marriage and havn't been the best at listening to him when he comes to me with problems/issues that bother him. I guess I didn't want to admit we had problems. Man was I wrong. I found out about two weeks ago that he was having an affair- I was and still am devasted.
I immediatly began searching for answers and ways to help me cope. I ran across an article and it talked about the 40 day Love Dare and fireproofing your marriage. We had watched the movie when it came out, but it had been awhile. I decided that I would ask my husband if he would watch the movie with me again. Earlier that day, Thursday, I went to our local Wal-Mart and purchased the Love Dare book. I gave it to him that night and asked him if he would do it with me. He was not very receptive to the idea but agreed to do it with me.
So, when my husband came home from work that night, we watched the movie together again and beagn the "Dare" challenge together at 2am. It has and will be a difficult challenge, but if God can forgive us over and over again, it is my duty to forgive him. I am dedicated to make our marriage work and get back to the strong foundation we once had.
Please pray for us and for me to cope and handle the situation in a way that will be pleasing to God- I am struggling!
Thanks!
10/30/2010
Watched fireproof again, alone you can always insert your self in one of the scenes and envision healing and growth. Starting love dare today with out my wife Kelly knowing . Kelly and I have three wonderful boys under 10 ,we have been under extreme financial and spiritial attack. It has been a dead marriage for years,sleep in seperate beds and have been instructed not to make any sexual advances. Kelly has asked for a divorce and on a selfish basis sure why not we have drifted apart and are different people. I have myself to blame I have closed her off given her the silent treatment ,Kelly has her support freinds and parents who want me out of her life. Our communication skills are non-existant I often feel I am talking to the debate champion of the world and my standard answer is your right and I am sorry and get further seperated from what a relationship should be. I have been to doctor and put on anti-depressants and they seem to help. I have had drinking or smoking pot issues as coping skills. I would rather not be around people even though have been cars sales man for 20 plus years. I love spending time hiking or biking in the wilderness sometimes buzzed. I listened to christian music and really just try to worship and praise god and truly belief in Gods promices and Jesus is our link to salvation not only in heaven but earth as well. I have felt The presence of the holy spirit and oh my GOD the greatest feeling ever is my arms extended buckled on my knees speaking in tongues surrending to the almighty,MY FATHER . I have received miracelus blessings and my dreams have wings and know in my heart God has plans for me and it does not include divorce. Last night I overheard parts of a conversation Kelly had over a 5 hour period with some guy! I have never heard her so happy. It just tore me apart.I was going to give her the divorce trusting she would not keep me from my sons and it was for the good of everybody.At times during her talk I felt like I was witnessing adultry right in front of me and thought I am off the hook I can justify divorce and God will understand but how do I get my boys to heaven I will have no control of situation so I am going to fight and save my marriage do the love dare do one on one with pastor off church which is an awesome church and a great pastor and strong biblically based messages .`
mark
10/26/2010
My husband and I have only been married for almost 2 months. We are on the verge of splitting up because I have lied to him twice. Being only 24 I have my hands up in the air wondering how this is gonna work out if I have already messsed up. I am asking for strength to help me with the 40 day love dare. And for my husband and I to fall back in love. Also I pray that my 4 step-kids and my 3 year old son see us happy and in love and not seeing us fight all the time.
10/26/2010
My husband and I have been married only 6 months, however we were together for 2yrs before getting married. Lately, we have been having very heated arguments on a consistent basis. So about 2 weeks ago we met a nice older married couple at church. She gave us her card and told us to feel free to call her if we ever needed to talk or wanted prayer. She mentioned (out of no where) how she oftens speaks to married couples.
Well God certainly has a way of speaking to people because just yesterday my husband and I started seeking professional help. We started marriage counseling classes through our insurance. So we we had a nice day yesterday...UNTIL..we decided to go out to watch the game together later that night and when we came back ALL chaos broke loose. It was like a war zone.
Well that was the last straw for me. So I decided to call the couple we had met at church, just 2 weeks prior. What a blessing that was!! She explained to me about this movie, 'The Love Dare' and suggested I watch it and she also prayed with me over the phone. I was able to get the movie online with no problems and I proceeded to watch it. Let me tell you...that movie hit so close to home. Especially, the first 30 mins of it. I was in tears frequently throughout the movie.
So when my husband came home I had him watch the movie (and he was willing, with no problem). When he finished we talked about it and he said the same exact thing...IT HIT HOME.
So here we are..we have both decided to do the 40 Day Love Dare and along with our professional counseling I pray and ask that those that read this pray for us that we will get to the place in our marriage where we should be.
Malinda
10/25/2010
MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR ONLY A FEW MONTHS AND DATING AND LIVED TOGATHER FOR 3 YEARS. MONEY HAS ALWAYS BEEN A ISSUSE. HOWEVER WE BOTH HAVE MULTIABLE JOBS BUT HARDLY ANYTIME TOGATHER AND I FEEL WE SNAP AT EACH OTHER MORE THAN NORMAL. AND MOST OF ALL WE HAVE NO TIME FOR GOD. WHICH I FEEL IS A SNACK FOR SATAN. WE BOTH KNOW THAT WE NEED TO CHANGE OUR LIFE STYLE. SO HERE I AM.
COURTNEY
10/25/2010
My husband and I have been together for over 2 years and married only 8 months. We have one child and one on the way. Currently we are in a really hard spot. After finding out that my husband was unfaithful I decided to try The Love Dare to see if we could strengthen and being to rebuild our marriage as we are currently living in seperate homes. I do not want my children to grow up like I did. I just need a little guidance to help my heart understand the path that was choice for me.
TIFFANY
10/24/2010
My husband and I have been together for 7 yrs and married for 4 of those years. We have a son together. I decided to do this love dare because I feel that I need to learn how to trust and love my husband again due to the fact that almost one year ago there was a woman who almost wrecked our lives and marriage. I was deeply hurt that my husband would do this to me and our family,so I figured if God could forgive him then so could I. I know it will take time but time is what heals all wounds.Right?
Jo
Jody
10/22/2010
I have been married less than a year. My husband and I fight more and more everyday. We are great parents. But, together we are no longer one. We relocated as soon as we got married. I have been holding it against him for the past year. Anger has built up inside both of us. We were both raised in church and know God is in control. After a talk this morning about seperation I decided I am going to start the LOVE DARE today. I need my husband. I love him so and I don't want to lose him. He is my best friend and my heart. Please pray for us as we start this new journey.
10/18/2010
Last night my wife asked if I could watch a movie with her and plan on having a talk afterwards. Understanding where she was going with this, I said yes. We watched the movie together and had a 2 hr talk afterwards. Friends told my wife to watch it to build our marriage to be stronger. Having been married for over 22 years, currently we are in a hard spot. Over the past year life has gone on, just by the motions, and sometimes just nothing more than that. After this movie, I have felt heart sunken, emotional, and even a little empty. I now know what I need to do to be fulfilled again. I need to start loving Jesus again. I need to love my wife and son more than before. I just ordered the 40 day journal to do and the dvd to always have and share. This movie was truely an eye-opener and uplifting. Being a cop, my relation to this movie was even stronger. Thank you.
10/16/2010
10/16/2010
WOW, I saw the movie "Fire Proof"" a long time ago and at one point I wanted to include the "love dare" into my ministry which was a marriage ministry.
Seems like this is a testimony of sorts but it is actually a confession that I pray turns into a testimony. I have been with my wife for almost nine years (3/2/02) and I have been married just a bit over 5. We have been through so many things in our time together that would have probably destroyed any other couple.
Just recently I fell big time. I had an affair with someone at work. Although the relationship did not manifest physicallyin regards to sex, there was a kiss, that fact that I did what I did leaves me in a position of shame. I talked to her on the phone about intimate things as well as general things that I normally would talk to my wife about. My wife literally got word from God(discernment) and knew something was amiss. She confronted me and like many other guilty people, I lied about it. Finally she came in the room and asked what it was about the situation that she was not doing or why was she not enough. That broke my heart and caused me to talk and tell her what happened.
I told her things that hurt to say because it meant for certain that we would hae a divorce. I could not stand to see the look on her face as the tears flooded her eyes in disgust. I could no longer console her, as she would want to kill me for touching her. I could no longer be her source of strength as I am found to be weak. I could no longer be her way to laugh out of a situation as I was a bitter sweet presence in the room. On one hand she is looking at the guy that she loved nconditionally for so long and on the other hand that same guy rocked her world un-imaginably.
We are a few days into the hurt as I recall where my relationship with God went. For me to be preparing a ministry with the Love Dare as one of our tools to needing to use it for myself is hurting. Please keep us in prayer as we take this journey. Please pray for our will to be aligned with God's will and for our restoration.
I thank God for being willing to recieve me again after such a failure. Thank God for forgivness!
10/16/2010
About 9 months ago my wife of 8 yrs finally got her dream and became a firefighter. Although she finally made it, it took it's toll on our marriage as she has been trying to get on for 7 yrs. I was devastated when she wanted to seperate once she got on, and saw it coming years ago. However, I looked at what I was doing to our marraige and what I needed to do differently to make things work. I had my share of stuff over the years and I knew that I wasn't perfect either. I heard about the love dare from her because of the Firemen told her about it. I got the movie and watched it, and was floored by how moved I was and how I asw myself in those people. I decided to do the dare and it made huge changes in me and she saw it too. We moved back together temporarily but she had not done the dare and I didn't commit to it fully. Now we are very good friends and she is in financial trouble. She is still leagally my wife and things are beginning to look dim for us.
I decided after I dated someone else to give it one last chance and fully commit to the love dare and truly foresake all others. This is incredibly difficult and it seems like the relationship is dead, but I am doing this for Him, and actually not trying to win her back this time, but praying for her and loving her even though I feel nothing. I just want her to be blessed and full of love like when I first met her. Even if she and I are not meant to be together, I want this for her and I want her to be happy and walk with grace.
Sincerely,
Ben
10/12/2010
I have been married for only 4 1/2 years and we have already been separated for 2 1/2 and are currently in divorce court. Our relationship started as friends almost 20 years ago and is now about to be completely thrown away. Fights have been brutal, verbally assaulting, emotional and a in a few instances physical, with arrests, restraining orders and the like. There was also an affair that my husband had, it was letter writing and kissing which even though not sexual in nature I found to be an emotional affair which I think devastated me more. His excuse has been that I drove him to it by not being there for him emotionally and sexually and I still chose to not hear him and instead feel hurt and betrayed. Since fight one I can now admit that I was out to hurt back, hurt him as he hurt me and I have carried that anger and "hate" since that time, never giving him a chance because it seemed to me as if there was nothing that he could do to restore the vows he broke in our marriage. I have been happy (or so I thought) since our separation, coming home to the kids and having no stress, no fighting, no contact with him seemed to be a blessing. Only now, with the divorce just about done with the exception of property and fine tuning visitation am I starting to feel confused and lost. Our last court date was only 2 1/2 weeks ago and when my attorney said that we could very well be divorced by the end of the year in my head I was thinking, great, start a new year fresh but my friend that came with me for support has since said that the look on my face was very sad. Over the past week I have found myself thinking about him and our relationship and the good times, I try to remember the bad and its hard to do right now. It's there but I'm finding that I don't feel so much hate, that I instead feel confused and miss him...how could something like our relationship that came together after 16 years of knowing eachother and then a marriage and a beautiful daughter turn so ugly and horrible for both of us. I talked with 2 of my friends about this and just last nite one of them gave me "The Love Dare" and "Fireproof" books. I really want to know before it's final if the hate I have is really hate or if underneath it I have buried all the love I have for him and could our relationship be fixed, saved..... My friend told me to look the book through and then start with the dares. I was so involved with it I stayed up and read the entire book until 2:15am. In the very beginning of the book I have to say that I saw so much of myself in the qualities I didnt like and the things that were done, by the middle there was definitely a change in my feelings towards him and myself and by the end of the book when I finally was able to lay down and try to sleep at 4am I said to myself that I do love him. I don't know where this will go, as I said we have been living apart for 2 1/2 years with not much contact or speaking at all, I do think he has a girlfriend and I don't know that he will even want to give us a try, but I'm trying to be hopeful. If we cannot regain our love and marriage I atleast hope that we can be better together for our daughter, but I really want to give this an honest heartful try knowing what I know now. Who would have thought that reading 197 pages could turn my feelings of hate and disgust and distrust to ones of love and kindness, if I can feel that then maybe he can to. As I know, if it is real love, unconditional love, it doesnt go away. One to Dare 1.
Cindi
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